Pure Love Lifestyle

Intro

A New Approach

Pure Love Lifestyle

Absolute sex is accomplished in a loving relationship with one's spouse, in a God-centered marriage. The joyful experiences of absolute sex lifestyle create the foundation for stability and the enduring love in a marriage. A true family is the natural development of such a high standard of love.

The true family which results from the practice of the pure love lifestyle becomes the school of love for everyone in that family.

Abstinence before marriage is essential in order to maintain purity and attain the perfection of true love. It helps to secure the integrity of good character, establishes the foundation for trust with one's partner, creates the bond of heart for practicing absolute sex, and builds a strong base to educate and guide one's children by example. And, most important, it harmonizes with God's ideal for man's fulfillment of His original purpose: attaining perfection by becoming one in heart with God, create the ideal family, and become true lords of creation.

Love is the most precious and intimate of all forces in the universe. Therefore, the cultivation and development of love should take place in a pure and unselfish environment. As sons and daughters of God, we hold the highest position of the fulfillment of responsibility of love. We are expected to fine-tune the strings of adolescent love through self-control so that the music of true love can be played at the most cherished moment of our lives.

Marriage, the union of man and woman who are truly committed to God and each other, is the most precious event for consummating love. Here, the power of the practice of abstinence is fully rewarded. Both partners in love are destined to gain the respect and trust of each other. At the same time, a secure foundation is cemented so that true love can mature.

To mature love, it should grow vertically and horizontally, untainted of false emotions and experiences. It should be connected to the heart of God and be secured in Him. To become united in onenes with our complimentary other of the opposite sex is also God's longing and yearning for us (Gen.2:24). Therefore, it is absolutely vital that we maintain purity of love for the sake of perfection of love before God, and for our spouse to be.

Abstinence and Personal Development
Excerpts from a paper submitted to the Hyundai World Student Contest by Matthew Jones (WCARP member)

Sexual abstinence before marriage is crucial for personal development. The degree to which we can create high levels of positive traits in ourselves will determine our likelihood of success in marriage.

Self esteem, one of the most vital human traits, will allow one to love one's spouse more and create deeper relationship. Many youths who have had premarital sexual experiences and especially those who have contracted some form of sexual disease feel less confident and even less desirable. The Medical Institute for Sexual Health shows that more than 80% of people with herpes exhibit the latter behaviors.

Teenagers who become absorbed in intense sexual relationships are turning inward at the very time in their lives when they should be reaching out; forming new friendships, joining clubs and teams, developing their interests and skills, and taking on bigger social responsibilities.

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10 Reasons why Abstinence before Marriage is Good

1. Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.

2. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life.

3. The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women.

4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage. Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.

5. Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.

6. Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.

7. The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.

8. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences.

9. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.

10. If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.

True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all - the love nest of marriage.

Creating a True Family

The character and structure of the true family, The school of love, The four great realms of heart, The three great levels of kingship, Absolute sex and the AIDS problem.