Anais Nin Mistress of the Erotic


"I love her for what she has dared to be,
for her hardness, her cruelty, her egoism, her perverseness,
her demoniac destructiveness. She would crush me to ashes without
hesitation...I worship her..."

--Anais Nin

Anais Nin

Mistress of the Erotic

Anais Nin was one of the most powerful erotic writers that I have every read. Anais Nin was born in Paris in 1903 and lived to 1977. She is best known for her diary. The has been published internationally, in eleven volumes. Along with here diary Anais Nin did wonderful works of fiction. Stories include but not limited to The Boarding School, The Ring, The Hungarian Adventurer, and Mathilde.
Anais Nin lived her life as she saw fit to live it. Anais Nin was a loving wife to Hugo Guiler and a mistress to both June and Henry Miller. Anais Nin had intimate love affairs with both Henry and June Miller. These affairs liberated her sexually. Anais Nin wrote in a letter to Henry Miller in June of 1932 " I have become an like Gertrude Stein. That's what love does to intelligent women " It is thoughts like that, that show you the love that she had for Henry Miller. Over the years the intimacy between Henry and Anais had its high and low points but they always had a strong love for each other.

First and foremost Anais Nin was a loving wife. She was deeply in love with her husband Hugo but he left her sexually unfulfilled. Anais noted in October 1931 while living in Paris told her brother Eduardo " I will love my husband, but I will fulfill myself. " she had also told Eduardo that " that his type is the large buxom woman, heavy on earth, while I will always be the virgin-prostitute, the perverse angle, the two-faced sinister and saintly women. " With these words set the stage of things to come. It would be another two months before Anais would meet Henry Miller, but she was already reading the works of D.H. Lawrence.
When Anais Nin first meets Henry Miller, she hates him. One of first things that she put into her journal about Henry Miller was of her distrust of his motives. " We work, not so very well. I don't trust him. When he says nice things to me, I think he is playing on my inexperience. When he puts his arms around me, I think he is amusing himself with an overintense and ridiculous little woman. " Anais over time grew to love Henry Miller. In fact for over 20 years Anais Nin and Henry Miller wrote letters to each other. In a letter that Henry Miller wrote to Anais in March of 1932 he wrote " Yes, Anais I want to demask you. I am too gallant with you. I want to look at you l ong and ardently, pick up your dress and fondle you, examine you. " This shows the passion that Henry and Anais had for each other, but everything that Henry was sexually to Anais she still needed Hugo in her life. It was Hugo that was who she went to for more then love, more like the mating of the soul and not the body. On the other hand Henry did for her body what Hugo did for her soul. It worth noting that " Jay " in Anise' fiction was in fact based on Henry Miller.

When Anais meets June Mansfield Miller, Henry's second wife. She fell in love with June. In Anais' diary she spoke of true beauty. She even wrote of " Her beauty drowned me. " Anais for what looks like the first time in her life lets herself fall head over heals in love. " It seemed so natural to me that everybody should love her. " Anais could not get June out of her mind. " I want to put my arms around her. I feel her receding into death and I am willing to enter death to follow her, to embrace her. She is dying before my eyes. Her tantalizing, s omber beauty is dying. Her strange manlike strength. " With those words it looks as if Anais would do anything or go any place to be with June. In my opion Anais look to June as more of a male role model the the men that are currently in her life. Anias in her diary said this of June Miller "... I know you would scald yourself and not complain. I feel the greatest peace and joy sitting in the dining room listening to you rustling about, you dress like the goddess Indra studded with a thousand eyes..."

Anais Nin llived a life full of erotic expermention, and freedom. She broke from what was, and is called normal. Anais over the years had many loves as well as lovers. She also learn to love and be one with herself "...Last night I deeply enjoyed myself at the Grand Guignol, the convulsion of a woman tempted by passion, lying naked on the black velvet cough. A lusty woman takes her pajamas down. I felt tremendous sexual excitment." It was this self love that help Anais Nin make the stand that she did in the time she did it in.

L to R Maria de Medeiros(Anais Nin) Fred Ward(Henry Miller) Uma Thurman(June Miller)
From the Movie Henry and June. based on the diaries of Anais Nin

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Henry & June poses paradox of innocence and sexuality

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The Henry Miller Library Online

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The Diary of Anais Nin

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Books on Anais Nin


Henry and June From the unexpurgated diary of Anais Nin A Harvest/HBJ Book ISBN# 0-15-640057-X

Anais The Erotic Life of Anais Nin by Noel Riley Firch ISBN# 0-316-28428-9

A Literate passion Letters of Anais Nin and Henry Miller 1932 to 1953 Edited by Gunther Stuhlmann ISBN# 0-15-652791-X

Two good book to get started with if you have never read Anais Nin

Delta of Venus by Anais Nin ISBN# None

Little Birds by Anais Nin ISBN# None

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