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The
Infantilist's Declaration of Independence From Ignorance
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Naturals,
Balancers and More
First, for the purposes of this website, let me begin by defining what we mean by the term
Infantilist. For
the purposes of discussion, this website defines an infantilist
as:
- Any person who has found that he or she derives a certain
amount of pleasure from the act of wearing a diaper, even when
no practical or real need is present, and who has done so in
the past on a repeated basis over time.
In such instances it is essentially a form of fantasy where
one imagines that one has somehow returned to a state of infancy
when in fact the reality of one's life is that one has matured
well beyond that stage of life. Also most would probably
agree that for them this fantasy includes at least some elements
of security, pleasure, relinquishment of responsibility, submission,
secrecy, shame, and stress relief. Some other less common
but perhaps more difficult experiences or feelings some infantilists
experience are masochism, homosexuality, transvestism, depression
and anxiety. Actually the long list of all of the possible
emotions and experiences that are sometimes associated with infantilism,
is probably an endless list, but we have tried to lay out some
of the more common emotions and experiences experienced by infantilists
here.
While many infantilists have learned how to adapt well to a lifestyle
that incorporates at least some aspects of infantilism, many
others have experienced various social or anxiety related problems
which may have arisen in association with their infantilism.
After being associated with this website since 1997, we have
not yet heard of a single individual who we would define as a
successfully recovering infantilist. For the sake of the
terms of the discussions carried on at this website, we will
define a successfully recovering infantilist (or a Recoverer)
as anyone who successfully meets all of the following three criterion:
- An infantilist who has been able to entirely abandon the
wearing of diapers for a year or more.
- An infantilist who fully and reasonably believes that he
or she will probably never return to the wearing diapers solely
for reasons of enjoyment ever again.
- An infantilist who has made this choice concerning diaper
wearing completely freely and independently. One who can
say with a reasonable amount of certainty that the decision to
stop was made over a year ago without any explicit (or implied)
pressure from parents, spouse, institutions (e.g. the armed services),
or other cohabitors.
We have formulated this rather strict definition to describe
a successful recovery from infantilism due the unfortunate, but
well known fact that we infantilists all have imagined ourselves
at one point or another to have successfully recovered from the
desire after either shorter periods of abstinence, or after periods
of external pressures from those around us, but to the best of
my knowledge, as of this writing, we still have not yet heard
of a single individual who could be described as a Recoverer
according to the above definition. So far as we know, like
it or not, we all seem to eventually relapse.
We do not by any means, offer the fact that we have not yet heard
of anyone who has achieved a successful recovery according to
the above definition, as a proof that such people do not exist.
In fact, it remains as my personal hope that such people
do exist. But still, this is the fact to date. If
anyone knows of any such individual, or if they are such an individual
themselves, then please let me know! Please email the primary
webmaster at: Scott
P., and we will not hesitate to document this on this site,
on this page, and in the Forum. While we personally believe
in the innate indominability of the human spirit, even in matters
that are so poorly understood as infantilism, meanwhile we are
also a pragmatists, and we know with certainty that in our own
lives, until a greater clarity and understanding of the issue
might someday evolve, at some very deep level in myself, for
the time being we do best to simply accept ourselves as we are,
diapers and all, and to move on with the rest of our lives, as
best we are able.
Now, having defined both the very real term: Infantilist,
and the still abstract term: Recoverer. All of the
infantilists we have met so far on this site are what we call
Practicing Infantilists as opposed to successfully Recovering
Infantilists.
To define what a Practicing Infantilist is, we build this
definition upon the earlier definition of a Recovering Infantilist.
We define a Practicing Infantilist as the converse
of a Recovering Infantilist, namely:
- A Practicing Infantilist
is any Infantilist who has worn diapers when no practical or
real need was present, at any time over the last 12 months, and
who has at any time in his or her life done so repeatedly over
time.
Experience with this website has taught us that there are
three basic types of Practicing Infantilists. These
are, Naturals, Balancers and Full-Stoppers:
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A Natural
is an infantilist who generally prefers to give his or her infantilistic
desires the upper hand in his or her life, if at all possible.
Many Naturals actively seek out work situations and living
situations that will tolerate their wearing and using of diapers
24 hours a day, seven days a week. While such living situations
may be possible to arrange, the finding of a suitable work situations
is often much more of a challenge. |
| Balancers-
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A Balancer
is an infantilist who tries to reach a reasonable compromise
or balance with his or her infantilistic desires. Considering
the somewhat impractical, inefficient and unavoidably socially
stigmatic aspects of diaper wearing (in many or most social situations),
the Balancer usually limits his or her diaper wearing to the
privacy of his or her own abode, and usually chooses to operate
publicly and in nearly all social interactions without the wearing
of diapers. Some Naturals refer to Balancers as "closet-infantilists". |
| Full-Stoppers-
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A
Full-Stopper is an infantilist who maintains the hope or belief
that he or she still retains the latent ability to one day fully
stop or eliminate his or her infantilistic desires, regardless
of all evidence to the contrary. It is most probable that
most infantilists began their diaper wearing with this hope still
firmly in mind, but as the years go by, and as the thought and
behavior patterns seems to only become more and more ingrained,
many infantilists seem to eventually discard or deny this hope
(see footnote). As can be guessed, considering
the fact that there are not yet any recorded examples of any
truly successful Recovering infantilists, most
Full-Stoppers today are reluctantly forced to Balance their infantilistic
desires, until such time as they might find a better way to deal
with them. Some Balancers and Naturals react negatively,
or even with a certain amount of hostility towards Full-Stoppers,
because they feel, based on their own personal experience, that
the Full-Stop philosophy is an unrealistic, dead-end philosophy,
that implicitly judges them for accepting themselves as they
are. Certainly those who count themselves on both sides
of this debate have some legitimate points to make. It
is my hope that those who fall on either side of this debate
might always bear in mind the possibility that nobody knows for
sure who is right, at least so far, and that patience would dictate
that we will probably all one day know what this is really all
about, when the time is right for each of us. |
| SO's of Infantilists-
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The
SO (Significant Other) of an infantilist is a person who chooses
to remain in a long term intimate relationship with one whom
they know to be an infantilist. |
It is our hope with this site that through the process of such
a dialogue, we and others may be able to find the strength and
support we need to rise above what we (at least) feel has been
and could easily still be a major problem in our lives. We also
believe that the problem of infantilism often causes low self
esteem and a lack of genuine self respect. It seems to me that
most of the infantilists we have met on the internet are fine
people who somewhere along the line came to associate the state
of infancy with a lost state of acceptance and love.
Regardless of where you, or a person you may love may fall on
the infantilist scale, we hope that this site will be of some
value to you.
Sincerely,
Scott P.
Jonathan D.
Webmasters
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We have authored this website with
the idea in mind that Recovering Infantilists as we defined above
may actually be out there somewhere, in spite of all evidence
to the contrary. As they say on the X-Files, "The Truth
is out there." |
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