NEXT I HAVE LEARNED........
that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
I've learned
that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
I've learned
that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
I've learned
that it's not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned
that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.
I've learned
that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.
I've learned
that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I've learned
that it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I've learned
that you should always leave loved ones with loving words it may be the last time you see them.
I've learned
that you can keep going long after you can't.
I've learned
that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I've learned
that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I've learned
that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades
and there had better be something else to take its place.
I've learned
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done
when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I've learned
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I've learned
that my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time.
I've learned
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down
will be the ones to help you get back up.
I've learned
that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned
that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I've learned
that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't
mean they don't love you with all they have.
I've learned
that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.
I've learned
that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish.
Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
I've learned
that your family won't always be there for you.
It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you
and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
I've learned
that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned
that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned
that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learned
that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I've learned
that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I've learned
that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I've learned
that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I've learned
that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and
you will hurt in the process.
I've learned
that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I've learned
that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you,
you will find the strength to help.
I've learned
that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I've learned
that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.
I've learned
that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting
people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
The Present...
Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some 5 balls in
the air. You name them -- work, family, health, friends and spirit and
you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand
that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But
the other four balls -- family, health, friends and spirit are made of
glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed,
marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be
the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your
life. How ? . . .
Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It
is because we are different that each of us is special.
Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only
you know what is best for you.
Don't take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling
to them as you would your life, for without them, life is
meaningless.
Don't let your life slip through your fingers by living in the
past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live
ALL the days of your life.
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is
really over until the moment you stop trying.
Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is
this fragile thread that binds us to each other.
Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that
we learn how to be brave.
Don't shut love out of your life by saying it's impossible to
find. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to
lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is
to give it wings.
Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where
you've been, but also where you are going.
Don't forget that a person's greatest emotional need is to feel
appreciated.
Don't be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure
you can always carry easily.
Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved.
Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the
way.
Yesterday is History
Tomorrow is a Mystery, and
Today is a gift.
That's why we call it ..... The Present.
The Dash ......
I read of a man who stood to speak
at the funeral of his friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
from the beginning.....to the end.
He noted that first came the date of her birth
and spoke of the second with tears,
but he said that what mattered most of all
was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
that she spent alive on earth,
and now only those who loved her
know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own,
the cars, the house, the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
and how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard,
are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left.
(You could be at "dash mid-range").
If we could just slow down enough to consider
what's true and what's real,
and always try to understand
the way other people feel.
And...be less quick to anger,
and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives
like we've never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect,
and more often wear a smile,
remembering that this special dash
might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy is being read
with your life's actions rehashed.....
would you be pleased with the things they have to say
about how you spent your dash?
Author Unknown (but probably owned
by a cat!)
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