Your page is so true and right to the heart..
*If the world just quit using other things as an excuse for there wrong doings.. This world would be a better place..
*If the world quit worrying about the neighbor getting a new car, being jealious he's got the car, brake in and take the car and then get into an accident.. All because he didn't have one.. God new he wasn't able to take care of one yet; so he doesn't allow us to get the things we ask till he feels we are ready...
*If the world quit worrying about why the best friend of a friend was out on the town with someone else other than his or her husband. Her being married herself felt the need to butt in and tell her husband.. Then finding out that he was the one messing around. In over all the husband and wife were trying to get back together going through therpy but because the girl friend butted her nose in.. Runed everything and now divorce is being filed.. If only she would have not been jealious because the best friends marriage isn't going good. That her jealiousy of seeing her friend trying to get through her messy marriage her way actually ruined it for them..
It all boils down.. We all need to worry about the plank in our own eyes and not make a big issue in the others eyes.. Fix our own selves.. Because when we are trying to fix others and not fixing our selves.. Maybe we are the ones with the bad attitudes and with our attitudes we are messing it up for others..
We need to also learn the art of forgiveness and but when we say we are sorry.. Don't stop there.. After the sorry.. There is also the Making it right after the "I'm sorry's".. Making the other really now and see you mean it by your fixing and changing actions..
The art of giving.. I will give if you give back.. No that is a contraversal statement yes.. But it isn't right in the eyes of what Jesus wants us to do.. But because Jesus said it means others aren't listening.. IF the world can open up there eyes and stop all the bickering, The I wants greed for money, Jealiousy of she is getting more than me and just listen.. Then we would be so much better today..
Your letter was heart hitting and to the point.. And if anyone write you diffent then ignore them.. It was wonderful..
Hello My name is Jessica and I am an 18 year old from Seattle, Washington. I
know that it has been some time sine the Columbine shootings, but none the
less I have thought about those kids constantly. Though I have never met any
of those kids nor will I ever ... I feel so much pain for them...my heart
hurts for those kids. Last year some time not far from the Columbine shooting
we had our own school shooting here in Washington..and also one in Oregon..no
one realizes what this is all about. It is not just the childrens
fault..everyone seems to point the finger at Americas youth..saying we are
numb, and dont care about anybody but ourself...that is not true..we feel as
much as anyone else..but we are what we are today because of what we were
brought up to be..we did not raise ourselves our parents did..society did. I
am not blaming this all on Americas parents or Americas society...who am I to
point fingers...but what I am saying is we need to realize that there is more
to this than what meets the eye. I remember seeing a poster in my elementary
school nurses office it was simple but yet it touched me..it read..."It takes
a village to raise a child" that is so true...society effects the way we live
our lives..we see violence therefore we act on violence..kids tease kids
...they use violence for revenge. I have lived in Seattle since I was about 7
..and Seattle is a big city..so I have seen alot...I have seen many shootings
as a child..I have seen my friends shot and killed by one of our "friends"
things like that are not rare here..and that is sad. I never thought i would
have to go to my best friends funeral after she shot herself in the head at
the young age of 16..because her uncle raped her...you may grow up around
violence...but its still hard to comprehend how or why anyone could ever even
think of killing their classmates and teachers...at my high school in my
junior year which was 1998...i was on my way to a school dance..and my friend
was like i cant believe we are going...Me ..hmm..I was confused...so I asked
why wouldnt we? She looked at me liek i was nuts..apparently some freshman
had been expelled and had phoned in a bomb threat and said he was gonna shoot
up the dance...then blow it up...I was terrified..see the dance was held
outdoors in our deca commons...so that made it more frightenong...but
luckily nothing happened...that time. But what about next time? I am scared
that someday my little sister will be attending H.S. and this will continue
and get worse...if that is possible.Everyone is blaming the suspects or
"killers" but if you look at the BIG PICTURE..there are alot of people at
fault..not only in the columbine shooting but also the oregon
shooting...there were numerous signs that teachers , parents and students all
should have recognized and reported...if they would have taken some sort of
action...these tragedies would not have occured..those kids would have gotten
help, and parents would still get to see their babies walk down the aisle to
accept their high school diploma. I am sorry to not only the Colorado
families but to Americas Families that are suffering from the loss of a
child..or the loss of their safety in their communities..Be good and take
care of each other..remeber this of anything that I have said...LOVE IS THE
ONLY HOUSE BIG ENOUGH FOR ALL THE PAIN!
I recently came across your site, and started to read of all the people
who care about what is happening in the world today.I step back and
wonder why can't everyone (man, women, child, father, mother, sister,
brother) any relative be true to themselves and love one another. Not
with pain by abuse, or killing someone. But by helping. When someone
sees something, get involved. Don't turn the other way. One person
could actually make the difference in someone's life. Even just by
lending an ear or by a few words that are spoken.It could be those very
few words that will be the seed that is planted to help.I am a mother of
5 daughters.I have 2 in high school, one in upper elementary, one in
middle school, and one in grade school. My husband, myself and our 5
daughters live in a small town in Texas. After the Colorado bomb, there
was a bomb that exploded in a small town next to ours.Our town's high
school had bomb threats, so did our middle school.It is such a shame
knowing that you can't hardly trust anyone anymore.From our police,
ministers, babysitters, friends, neighbor next door, even a close
relative.You have to be so careful.I feel for the parents of the
children that have no clue of what their children are in to.I only hope
that my husband and I have taught our daughters enough to go into this
peer pressured world to make the right decisions for themselves and
maybe pass those planted seeds onto someone else. You see I was in a
previous marriage with 2 of my daughters. And was abused every way that
I could have been.This went on for 9 years. Then with a seed that was
planted through my family, I decided to get me and my daughters out.
That chain at that very moment now had been broken. Now I speak my mind
about any kind of violence. It is damaging any way that it happens.It
has an effect on someone even if someone hears about it.The violence has
somehow contributed to their life. Instead of people saying how sad
these things are that happen, we should all "GET INVOLVED". When I talk
to others about this I get on a roll.We have helped create these
happenings. Now it's time to help stop or try to teach other ways of
constructive anger. I care about what happens to people. And try to help
in any way that I can.IT"S TIME TO STAND AND MAKE THINGS BETTER FOR US,
OUR CHILDREN AND OUR CHILDREN'S CHILDREN. Yes you may put this
on your comment page. I sure hope all of your guestbook comments helps
someone. Even if it only reaches out to one person, it has served the
pupose. Thanks for listening to my venting.
I was looking for some simple web backgrounds and graphics to use in a
website I'm making for my 8th grade history classes. I am a teacher in
a charter school in Manchester, Connecticut; I am also a Christian. I
was surprised at the banner at the top of your page - in fact, at first
I thought it might be a link to some webscam. I was intrigued enough,
however, to click and read your words about violence and values. I'd
like to share some of my opinions with you on this subject. My
viewpoint comes from my 5 years as a high school and middle school
teacher and my experience in the world (which is, admittedly, not as
abundant as many of my colleagues').
I have found that most people have issues in life that come from their
home life.
I have discovered that a misbehaving child is a needy child.
I have found that the attitudes of children are related to the attitudes
of their parents.
I have found that most parents of "problem" children try too hard to be
their children's friends and not hard enough at being their parents.
I have found that life is easier to hide from than to face...
...I have found that hiding from life makes it harder in the long run.
I have discovered that life without faith is not much of a life at all.
I have learned that violence in the hearts of children is a result of
violence in the eyes of children.
I have discovered that children seek acceptance from anyone or anything
willing to give it, including the darker sides of the world.
I have learned that what people - and children in particular - seek in
life, is directly related to what they see others seeking.
I have learned that what people need and what they think they need is
often not the same thing.
I hope you find some meaning and value in these lessons - I have.
IS THIS GENERATION OF CHILDREN POSSIBLY THE MOST NEGLECTED GENERATION IN HUMAN HISTORY?
Just like some of the others I wound up at your site looking for
backgrounds and was curious enough to stop in and read some of the
comments you had on display.
I don't know just exactly what to feel after reading some of those
comments. I do know one thing, events such as those at Littleton
happen for a reason. But violence in homes has been around for a long
long time. It is not something that just started happening all of a
sudden. Funny how something like that happens and the publicity
brings out all these concerned people but when it gets right down to
it they all go right back to their nice quite plush lives and forget
all about the kids that live that violence day in and day out. I
speak from experience. I come from a lifetime of violence and there
was someone who showed some compassion but when it came to a decision
of where would I go to escape that violence and abuse, they turned
their backs and went back to their nice quite plush life and forgot
all about it. Where did i wind up? On the streets at the age of 15.
So kids don't need people's pity, they need someone who REALLY cares
and REALLY wants to help and that will be there even when things get
tough and sees things through to the end. Someone that can take those
horrible words that kids say out of pain, someone that can take the
misbehavior and bad things kids do and know how to sit and talk to
them and help them through their pain because that is what they are
trying so hard to deal with when they do these things. Most kids
display disturbing behavior because there is a problem somewhere in
their lives and they don't know how to deal with it on their own.
They need someone, someone who REALLY cares, not just acts like they
care, or tries to help because well its their job. Violence is a
vicious cycle, we get abused, and the next generation gets abused and
it just goes on and on. I know now that my parents were abused and in
turn they abused us. I have gone through 3 marriages with abusive
husbands. Getting away from it is not easy when it seems like a normal
thing. But I have tried my best to change that cycle. I grew up never
hearing the words I love you, I always heard Dinner is served but that
didn't make me feel any better. With my kids, not a day goes by that
I don't tell them I love them. I tell them I love them when we leave
the house in the morning and I drop them off at school, I tell them I
love them when I get home in the evening, and I tell them I love them
when we go to bed. I don't always say Dinner is served because we all
keep different schedules but they know I love them more than life
itself. Personally I think that is more important than anything else
in this world. Feeling loved.
So if you really want to help those kids out there, when you volunteer
to help some program with troubled kids or homeless or abused kids or
people in general for that matter, do it because you feel it in your
heart, because you truly wholeheartedly care, and don't go home after
its all done and over with and say, boy I'm glad i'm outa there, those
kids or people are pretty screwed up. Because that doesn't show you
care, not really, and when people truly do something from their heart
it shows and for those who believe in God He knows. Remember in the
Bible it says something about you should do things for others and not
expect something in return. So give from the heart that is what these
kids and people need most.
I found this site whilst looking for backgrounds for my dissertation. I
am a 21 year old British student at Durham University, and finding this
page has managed to persuade me that there are people out there who care
about abused children. Here in Britain we have organisations such as the
NSPCC and Childline for helping children who are the victims of abuse,
but I know for a fact that they do not reach each child in need. As a
young girl, my father was an alcoholic, and used to come home and beat
up myself, my mother and my younger sister. He was very violent, and
although I was either too young to remember, or have blocked out the
memories, I know he would hit us through temper as well as drink. I was
a very petite child, and could not fight back in any way except to hide
in cupboards or behind the curtains or in the shed, but my sister would
try, and still cannot forgive my father. No'one helped us, and we told
no'one as I guess my mum was ashamed, and we knew no different - it
wasn't until I was about 13 that I realised that my life at home was not
the norm. From that point, it then took me 7 years to come to terms with
the facts, and tell people what had happened to me. I have forgiven my
dad, and love him very much, but that does not excuse what he did. So
many other children like me suffer in silence, through ignorance, fear
or shame. Something needs to be done, some stricter guidelines in
schools, where surely the problem is most likely to come out, to help
these kids. I never knew what a pain free childhood could be like. I do
not want that to happen to other children. Childhood should be a time
for exploring a safe, wonderful world, not a time of finding a new
hiding place and being so happy because next time they might not find
you.
My thoughts go out to the parents, famillies and friends of those kids
killed in their school - we had a simillar occurence in Scotland a few
years ago which shook the whole nation to its core. My deepest
sympathies go out to them.
I also came to your page for backgrounds. I read some on the internet
about this. Very sad. We need to change the way we look at each other.
Make it conform to God's way and not the world. I just read about some
guy who went off because his door wasnt fixed right. signed, John from
Berkeley
P.S. This culture is too hung up on money and status. Like, I live on
the street and I get vibes... especially from some of the rich students.
I just figure, they'll grow up some day and have to go out and get a
job. Then their attitude will change.
Attitude is the key thing. If you think you are better than everybody
else, you're not and you are just setting yourself up for a big fall.
I watch TV rarely, but when I do, I see a flood of ads and its the
same shit they used to push when I was a kid. Materialism, money, sex,
false values, low esteem of other people.
Commercials brainwashing people, especially those who watch too much
tv. It's garbage going into the brain. Garbage in, garbage out.
As you get older, you start realizing it's bullshit. But that's if
you're lucky enough to get older these days.
I drove cab for a few years in Oakland and Berkeley, and lived on the
street a few years. Seen my share of real violence... I dont see why
it's attractive to watch it in a video game. I see these video games
they got out now. They are full of blood flying everywhere, control one
chacter, make him beat and kill the other character... what is that
doing to kids? They should ban those things! They are really tasteless.
Isnt that something? We get more and more sophisticated virtual
simulations of reality... and it just ends up reflecting our bad side.
Reinforcing what's already there.
Will that solve the problem? No, not completely, but it might help.
Because I do believe people can be brainwashed.
This is just a small part of it, but you catch my drift? It's the way
we look at each other, as either in love and brotherly and sisterly
ways, or as competing animal type beings in a duel to the death. Love
each other, like Jesus said, or rip each other off.
Being numbed by constant programming (TV, movies, videos, music...)
kills the brain. People start acting like animals. They dont respect
each other, they look at each other as sex objects for their
gratification... or with disdain because they dont have as much money as
they do, or they dont own a shiny, new car... or they dont fit in. The
herd. Treating people with disrespect brings disrespect and worse
sometimes. We have the capability to do a lot, either good or evil. We
are responsible for our own actions.
It's not just video games. It's inside a person.
We need to love each other more. Also, I know someone who they call
hateman. He says we should acknowledge that we hate each other. He's a
bit of a trip to most of you. But I know him, and he has a true point.
It's that we should not be fake. Dont tell me you love me, and not mean
it. People should acknowledge their hatred, the negative... not act like
it's not there. It's hard for me to understand... but there is something
there.
This is good for people to put out their opinions. Like this. Well,
now you have my 2 cents worth.
Hi my name is Taimoor .I came to this page looking for some backgrounds and
other stuff.I read most of the
brutality regarding guns e.t.c.Now.....first of all I would like to tell
that I am from Pakistan and things like this
are quiet common here or lets say part of daily routien. I want to share
some thaughts which I usually see
all the day long.......Well kids are killed,bomb threats and all that stuff
at your place......have u ever ever
thaught about the miseries and painful life the fellows here at my place are
living these people BEG
all the day long you will usually come accross with people who can't walk
so sad so poor hardly get clothes to wear on , crawling beeging as some big
cars pass by hardly giving even a look at these people.
Small children of every ages come to your car windows there faces filled
with mud and moreover the pain
they have.Life has played a dirtiest trick on them .All these kids have a
big burden on there backs which they have to lift all the day long collect
rubbish and then they rewarded with a piece of bread....AH!
Most of them the women they even have to sell themselves is'nt it a
pity.Small Small children running at
the market place begging people "give me some money sir, i have to eat
did'nt ate all the day long ".Some
give,some push them away.......This may sound like a character involved in a
movie like Copperfiled
but guys its more then this more even more just think i see this in the
Capital of our country.............
Child abuse,guns,Somebody killed or lets say group of people killed in small
fight........Recently
i heard the news read papers and everything i was shocked, horrified but yes
not cried as i am seeing
this since I was born...anyways.. A guy namely Javid killed hundred kids
from ages 5-15 in a month
first sexually abused them and then put them in the acid and then threw the
drums away in the river or sea
nearby and this happened in another very well known city Lahore ......what
do u say now guys?
Police still searching for him . Now you must be thinking why he did that no
my dear friends! he was
no cyco he himself was once sexually abused in the prison by the cops and he
did this as a revenge.
As he wrote this in his diary which was found where he left the clothes of
the dead children.No one knows where he is now........There are thousands of
other cases much much brutal than this but it will take me the wholeday to
write it down............but I will tell you one thing we all people from
all the world are not in to
our relegion whatever it is and that why we are far far away from
God............and living in this world
full of hatred,bloodshed,sexual crimes,e.tc etc but no one
realizes..........
Oh God send someone like Muhammad , Jesus to help us out , And protect us
good lord!
Hi, I am a 13 year old girl of Port Elizabeth, South Africa.
When you hear 13, you think "some little girl" Well I'm no little girl, and I want to stand up against child abuse. My friends get abused from Perants and other relatives(no names mentioned) I really don't think this is fair!
I'd like to send this message around the world saying "Kids should be heard, they do know some things".
Lots of children belive imposible is posible, it's a gift. Unfortunately I've passed that age, I have grown up to fast for the way my mother treats me. Forcing me to do everything myself, not caring about me, and forever insulting me. My mother has custedy of me, and I wish she dosent.
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