a question.Dear Rich: What is the largest city in the world?
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Dear Anonymous: When taking into account the largest populations within city limits (as opposed to agglomerations), the answer is Seoul, South Korea (Followed closely by Mexico City, Mexico, São Paulo, Brazil and Bombay, India).
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Dear Rich: when i first started my school, i made enemy with this guy that i hated so much, he hates me too, that was 3 years ago, and now i changed, i like him alot, but he doesnt know it, i dont know how he feels about me, but he has problems staring into my eyes. we kind of made it publically that we hated each other, so it would be werid if i all of a sudden told him that i like him...what does it means when he doesnt have guts to look me the eyes and what should i do concerning my feelings for him? we are leaving this school at the end of june 2000. is it too late to start anything with him?
jeanie
Dear Jeanie: Believe it or not, this happened to me when I was in school. I met this girl and we had this HUGE fight in front of about sixty friends and quickly established that we hated each other. A few years later, we were voted cutest couple in the yearbook. I can't really say how it happened, it just did. It's not weird, it happens all the time. Most "hate" relationships actually indicate passions that run deep. It's never too late too try. Don't come right out and tell him you like him, try telling him you just want to bury the hatchet and see how he reacts. If he's still angry, then move on. If he agrees to try to make peace, give it a little time and see where it goes from there. Good Luck!
Rich
Dear Rich: well, like the begining of this year he made peace with me, but he still makes fun about me in front of his friends, but he doesnt have the guts to say it to my face. like he would tell the that they are sorry for thinking that i am pretty, or that i am gay. i dont know what to think of him anymore? does that mean that he doesnt like me? i dont know, like when i look at him, i can sense tht he kind of likes me but doesnt want to admit it. like around the first time we met, i had my aunt called him and she cussed him out and told him that i will never like him, so i dont know, what do you think about our love/hate relationship? is he waiting for me to say sorry?
Jeanie
Dear Jeanie: No, it doesn't mean that he doesn't like you. It means he has some growing up to do. If you really want this, it is going to take a lot of hard work and patience on your part. You need to think long and hard about whether or not he is really worth the effort. I have my doubts, but it isn't something I can judge very well, only you can make that call. If you decide that he is, then think about this: The major impediment to your relationship right now is outside forces like his friends and your Aunt. Try to work on keeping them out of the equation. Don't let your Aunt get involved anymore - at least not directly. It's okay to ask her for advice and guidance, but don't put her in the middle. If you're going to have a relationship with him, it has to be just you and him. He doesn't want your Aunt involved anymore than you want his friends involved. And as for his friends... well, let him be when he is around them. Don't try to be part of that. Try to get him into a one-on-one conversation and explain to him how you feel hurt by the way he acts around his friends and then leave it up to him to take action. If you can actually develop a real relationship with this guy (something that may take a long time), let him fix the problem with his friends.
Rich
Dear Rich: I have a 16 year old half brother who spent the last eight years living a distance away. He has now moved back to my town and I don't like the way he is being raised. Do you think I should voice my concerns to his mother, or stay out of it? I doubt I could do much to improve anything at this point, but feel I am obligated because I am the only close relative on this side of his family. Thanks
Joshua
Dear Joshua: It depends somewhat on exactly what it is you don't like about the way he is being raised. If you suspect there is some chance that he is being abused (physically or mentally) or something like that, you should report it to the authorities. If you simply disagree with the values he is being taught, it isn't your place tell the mother how to do her job. You can, however, be a good role model for your brother and try to teach him your values. If those values conflict with his mother's, well... at 16, he is old enough to make up his own mind about whose example he will follow. The best thing you can do is spend time with him and be there for him. Try to concentrate on him instead of what you think of his mother. Don't make things worse by getting into a war with her. Good luck.
Rich
Dear Rich: I have been "dating" this guy for four years. We have two children together. I am 28 and he is 23. I want to get married, but he keeps coming up with excuses. I should be able to take the hint, but I am hanging on. I don't want to be with him sexually anymore and it is not because I don't love him. I just want more and I don't know how to get it. I know he doesn't respect me, but even so I can't leave him alone. Please help.
Wendy
Dear Wendy: You say you have two children together, but you only talk about what you want. In my opinion, what you want doesn't matter. You are a parent and you need to think like one. Put aside what you want and think of what is best for your children. These are the questions you need to ask yourself: What kind of father/role-model is this guy for your
children? Will he stick around to help raise them, or is he likely to take off in the next couple of years? If he's a good father and you really think he'll be there for the children in the years to come, then make it work. Sit down with him and tell him that you feel he doesn't respect you and that you need to work something out together for the sake of the kids. Its up to
the two of you whether you marry or not, but you should realize that being married won't solve your problems. It won't make him change into what you want and it won't make him respect you. You can only build a relationship of respect by sitting down and talking. Communication is the key. If you think he may hurt or abandon the children at some point in their lives, leave him now while the children are still young enough to bounce back from
the separation.
Rich
Dear Hodgy and/or Trisha: (sexually explicit questions withheld) Seek professional help.
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Dear Rich: I am in love with a guy that lives about 5 hours away and i have no way of visiting him because my mom won't let me. I am
going out with him and i am worried that he is cheating on me what should i do?
Danielle
Dear Danielle: Relationships are hard enough, but you get a whole bag full of extra problems when it is long distance. They require
a lot of trust and dedication and hard work. Sometimes love just isn't enough. Can you make it work for you?
Maybe, but you are going to need help from... guess who. Aside from not letting you visit him, how does your mom
feel about the this guy? Surprise your mom with a very serious talk about the situation. Maybe she will be able to help
give you a better read on whether this guy is cheating or not. If you don't treat your mom as an obstacle, she might not
be one any longer.
Rich
Dear Rich: I need help!! This guy that I have liked for about.....forever!...wants to meet me! But I have a boyfriend....but this is probably a once in a life time chance....I have to take it....what do I do?????
Katy
Dear Katy: It sounds like you've already decided to meet with him, you just want someone to tell you its okay. The right thing to do is to be honest with your boyfriend. Even if it doesn't pan out with this other guy, it isn't fair of you to lead your boyfriend on in thinking he has a stable relationship with you. Let him down easy. Maybe he'll convince you that this guy isn't right for you, maybe he'll let you go... but you owe it to him to be honest about where you stand in this relationship.
Rich
Dear Rich: I have already spoken to my boyfriend.....we broke up. He just didn't trust me from the beginning. But it is his best friends fault. He told him all this stuff about me that wasn't true and he just decided to believe his best friend.....which just so happens to be my cousin.... But this guy that I want to meet....saw me last night. We didn't exactly meet though. I went to his basketball game and they lost so I decided not to meet him...he seemed kinda mad. But I now I have another problem.........the guys sister (whom I have never met nor seen before in my entire life) HATES me. For no reason. She just said that I am mean. That makes me sooo mad....what do I do????
Thanx Much, Katy
Dear Katy: Regarding his sister.... Wait. Be a kind and good person, and don't give anyone a reason to validate his sister's judgment. Eventually one of two things will happen... 1. She'll change her opinion about you and you might even become friends or 2. She'll go on hating you for no reason, but no one will pay any attention to her because she is being unreasonable. It is her problem to work through, not yours.
Regarding the guy... Waiting for the right moment is an excuse. Consider this... You are at the basketball game and they win... you can congratulate him and get to talking and share in his triumph. You are at the basketball game and they lose... you can tell him you are sorry he lost, but you think he played well and you can console him. If he was mad, a pretty distraction such as yourself was just what he needed to put him in a better mood. The outcome of the game is irrelevant. If you want to meet the guy, talk to him.
Regarding the ex-boyfriend...It obviously wasn't meant to be. Don't resent him. Pity him for not being able to trust. His heart is closed and someone may open it for him one day, but he doesn't want it to be you.
Regarding your cousin... Family means forgiveness. Years from now, you and your cousin will have trouble remembering your ex-boyfriend's name, but your cousin will still be your cousin. You will both grow and change and stuff like this will be laughed about.
Rich
Dear Rich: If Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled peppers, how many pickled peppers did Peter Piper pick?
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Dear Amy: Assuming Mr. Piper selected an accurate peck, he would have chosen 2 gallons worth. According to Dole Foods, the average pickled pepper is 148 grams. Based on that, the gentleman would have gathered approximately 49 peppers.
Rich
Dear Rich: Why does a dog come when it is called and a cat will take a message and get back to you when it feels like it?
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Dear DivaDish: Because a dog knows its name and a cat knows better.
Rich
Dear Rich: How much did Robin appreciate having her picture plastered on the net?
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Dear Pooh Crew: A certain picture of Robin at a 6AM Hockey Game will never be seen on this page.
Rich
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