The Death of Lady Sei

Updates at the bottom of the page - latest 5/5/2002 July 20, 2000

It's what everyone wants. Someone to love, someone to care for, someone to call their own until death do they part.

It's what I thought I had.

The photo above is of the person that I thought was my one true love, Lady Sei, also known as Seigrid Baldwin, also known as Cecilia Baldwin. We met through the One-2-One Chatline here in Las Vegas in September of 1996, and immediately hit it off.

We dated, fell in love, and got very romantically involved. Our relationship was stormy over the first two years, but then we moved in together in 1999.

There were times when she seemed distant, but she convinced me that it was the illnesses that troubled her. You see, Lady Sei was a cancer survivor. She had fought Thyroid and Cervical Cancer and won. For a time, according to her.

We had fought through a number of problems. Personal, financial, and medical, I thought we were a team for all time. She even said we were. Listen!

I had no reason to doubt her love for me. She proclaimed it loud and long to me. Listen!

Little did I know what was going on.

It seems that Seigrid never stopped looking for Mr Right. During 1999 she had online chats and telephone conversations with men from coast to coast. Oh, she always paid the bills, and I never doubted that they were platonic relationships. After all, that's what she said, and I believed her.

Little did I know that all the while when she was being introduced as my fiancee and Significant Other to all my friends and family, she was denying that we had anything beyond a platonic relationship to everyone else!

She wasn't just lying to me, she was lying to the men she was talking with online. See the picture above? Well the pictures below are two examples of photos she sent guys claiming they were her!

Now look carefully at the picture at the top of the page....not even close, right?

Early in the year she took her search global on the brand new eMachines computer I bought her for Christmas. Over four months she ran up nearly $800 in international long distance calls to potential suitors in Europe. Two showed up. One stayed, Gary from Ireland.

Sei denied she was looking for love anywhere else. She continued to proclaim her love for me. I still believed her.

In June she told me that she would need to undergo massive medical treatments in Southern California. She would need to move out. However, she had planned to move back to Las Vegas, find us a house, and we would move out of the apartment. She had found "special resources" that would enable her to find us a house and finally get married.

I believed her again.

On July 4 one of her friends who knew me e-mailed me and told me her AOL Profile was now indicating she had gotten married! I asked friends on AOL to fetch me a copy of the profile. It read:


Member Name: those who know me already know it!

Location: So. Cal. in the mountains... Wrightwood, Ca.

Sex: Female

Marital Status: JUST MARRIED! :^)

Hobbies: My Family,Gary, Crafting, Gary, Cooking,Gary, the great outdoors, Gary... an overall LUST for LIFE and yes, you guessed it... my Gary!!!

Computers: THIS ONE! =o)~

Occupation: Domestic Goddess/ radio production, radio voice overs, commercials

Personal Quote: Life gives us time, Love gives us meaning, and my Gary gives me both! <<-- @ -->>


While Cecilia, in a brief phone call, denied she had gotten married, her father told me in a brief conversation later in the week that yes, indeed, she had gotten maried again.

The fact was confirmed by a good friend of both her and mine in a phone call she made to him on his birthday. She said that she was going to e-mail me to fill me in on what was going on.

A subsequent contact from an AOL account signed Gary indicated that she wanted me to know that she was alright and that she would be getting in touch with me.

I'm not holding my breath.

In any event, I wish them both all the best. Particularly Gary. I hope this is the happiness Cecilia wants. I call her that now, because as far as I'm concerned, the person I knew as Seigrid died the day she walked out that door with a smile on her face, knowing that her future wasn't with me, but with Gary.

Updated September 1, 2000

Word from sources is that Cecilia is pregnant by her new husband. That despite her assurances that she couldn't conceive after surgery. Uncertain about a due date, but sources said she was quite unhappy.

Updated September 22, 2000

Had a conversation online with Cecilia this week. She confirmed that she's pregnant. Due date in mid-May. Claims she had sex with Gary only once, that she was drunk, and that was the only way it could happen.

She still claims that according to the doctors she shouldn't have been able to get pregnant, and is going through this because it's the right thing to do.

I hope that she's able to make this work and have this child. Perhaps at the age of 41, she's ready to grow up.

Meanwhile, my new roommate moves in October 1 to help me pay off the bills she left behind. It's someone whom I thought was just a good friend of hers. But it turns out that Chris is her ex-husband! I asked Cecilia if he was her ex, since they shared the same last name, but she denied it.

Quite honestly, all I'm doing now is keeping the lines of communication open simply so I can get paid the rest of the phone bill she owes me.

Here's a photo of the happy couple from her web page.

Updated September 28, 2000

Turns out the phone company won't take any more of her checks since three of them have bounced. Sent her a demand email, to which I got a basic "Do what you have to do. Gary and I will be leaving for the UK friday for about 5 months... He needs to clear up some loose ends that he has in Northern Ireland in regards to getting American Citizenship status. "

So much for integrity. So much for her growing up. Cecilia has proven to me that she's incapable of telling the truth and incapable of being anything but a cold heartless lying bitch.

Updated September 28, 2000

All traces of Seigrid have disappeared. She hasn't shown up in email, AIM, MSN, or Yahoo! Her web page has disappeared.

She's running and hiding.

Updated February 23, 2001

I honestly thought that I wouldn't be updating this any more. I really did....

Cecilia won't do what's right...and she won't go away...

First, the background...

I went on with my life and fell in love and got married to the real love of my life Nikki. We're expecting our first child -- a son -- in late May or early June. With the added responsibilities I tried to get Cecilia to fix this deal and pay her obligation.

She claimed inability to pay, but later upon learning that Nikki was pregnant, said she would pay a little more than half the amount due - $375 - the first of December. Here's an excerpt from an Instant Messenger chat I had with her on November 28, 2000:


Seigrid says:
BTW, will send you a Postal Money Order the 1st week in Dec... 375.00

Seigrid says:
will that be ok?

Seigrid says:
the very best to you...

Wyatt Cox says:
That'll be GREAT!

Seigrid says:
sorry can't get it sooner...

Seigrid says:
Gary becomes a dick when you are mentioned

Wyatt Cox says:
That's OK. I understand.

Wyatt Cox says:
Is he doing OK...apart form missing you?

Wyatt Cox says:
er, from

Seigrid says:
he's busy designing a mall in Singapore...

Seigrid says:
I hate this job he's doing because he's soo far


The money never arrived. Gary returned around Christmas, and when he got back, Cecilia stopped talking.

Until today, February 23, 2001 with the most bizarre thing she's ever done to me.

Nikki and I have been frantically trying to prepare for the birth of Simon, and posted scans of the ultrasound on February 9 on a web page now removed for our family and friends to enjoy. Imagine my shock to get this bizarre email from her!


From: CeeBrett@cs.com
To: wyattcox@hotmail.com, seigrid@hotmail.com
Subject: WTF!!!EXPLAIN!!!
Date: Fri, 23 Feb 2001 00:11:05 EST

MIME-Version: 1.0
Received: from [205.188.157.33] by hotmail.com (3.2) with ESMTP id MHotMailBC5F3C1D009140043218CDBC9D21A9523; Thu Feb 22 21:12:00 2001
Received: from CeeBrett@cs.comby imo-d01.mx.aol.com (mail_out_v29.5.) id i.e8.10e039cd (4216);Fri, 23 Feb 2001 00:11:06 -0500 (EST)
From CeeBrett@cs.com Thu Feb 22 21:12:23 2001
Message-ID:
X-Mailer: 6.0 sub 352
YOU NEED to tell me why and how you have gotten ultrasound pics of Gary's and MY baby!!! You are obviously keeping in contact with some of my friends eg., Snake? Karl??? Chris??? If you DO NOT REMOVE THE PICS FROM your web page or give PROPER IDENTITY WE WILL seek LEGAL ACTIONS! I refuse to let you pull any stunts on me- or my family! Although I would prefer if you'd remove them. CAN"T YOU PLEASE JUST LEAVE ME ALONE??? YOU ARE A MARRIED MAN!!


My response was simple:


Cecilia:

The pictures in question that are posted are, in fact, pictures of the baby that my wife Nikki and I are having on or about the first of June. They were taken at a local ultrasound lab on the afternoon of February 9. The dates and times as well as the name of the lab are visible in all of the scans. The pictures will remain on the web site since they are, in fact, ours to display!

I have intentionally restricted contact with you to simple good wishes for your marriage and move, with gentle reminders about the large monetary debt which you owe me. I shall cease emailing you any polite emails and stay straight to business and the promises broken.

Because of the threatening and vicious nature of your email, I am sending a copy of this reply to Compuserve and putting them on notice about your inappropriate use of the service.

Please settle our outstanding business, or at least give me an address where you can be served legally so that I can attempt to settle our business. When that debt is settled, trust me, you'll never hear from Nikki or I again.

All The Best,

Wyatt


I don't know what to think anymore about anything!

All I know is, this isn't over...by a long shot!

Updated September 21, 2001

Well, where to begin....

Cecilia had basically disappearred off the face of the earth following our last update. No one had heard from her, and both Nikki and I were curious about her baby.

That was answered when I heard from Chris, her ex-husband, a couple of weeks ago. It turns out that according to him, he talked to her father, who told him that Cecilia had lost the baby. I haven't confirmed that with anyone else and she hasn't said anything.

I emailed her a card and got a strange response from a different email address, cecilia_brett@hotmail.com, that said....

We would appreciate if you would not call and "harass" my parents in the future. They do not know where we are living and do not have our telephone number.

Cecilia A. Brett

HAVE A NICE DAY ;^)

...it continues to look like some things haven't changed....

Updated May 5, 2002

Just when you thought it was over....

It turns out that the five of us are now six, as someone else dropped me a line after finding this page....


For some unknown reason I did just did a web search for her - and was rather shocked to find your page.

I'm just another guy Cecilia had a very long-time (5 year?) phone relationship with. And yes, not only do I still have those two fake pictures of 'her' on my computer but several others as well.

Glad to hear your life has continued with success post-Sei. In one way or another she affected many of us.

Thanks for posting your webpage - and the interesting saga narrative!

All the best to you.


Spoke to her a couple of weeks before Christmas with the hope of perhaps prying a little bit of money out of her after having my wallet stolen on the bus. No dice. My wife listened in and her only comment was that she didn't know whether to be pissed because she was being such a bitch or feel sorry for her because she sounded so painfully unhappy. Whichever is accurate, Thank God and Greyhound she's Gone!

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