Before
retirement, my life style really focused on Work. First thing
which perplexed me after retirement is how to spend plenty hours
without going to work.
For
last 30 years, I have suffered from busy working life. However I
found myself also enjoyed such busy hours, because it was only
way of life I knew.
Suddenly
after retirement, I realized that I did not even know what my
wife's true hobby is and her objectives of life are. She seemed
to me like a stranger sitting next to me. However, it was myself
who was actually a stranger in the community. Our married life
became miserable rapidly.
this
seems to show our desolate mental situation
My
wife is essentially a typical optimist and this attribute of her
has been precious relief for me.
In
Japan, I mean good old Japan, wives were supposed to be patient
and obedient. In another words, men should protect and be
responsible for them and their attached living things.
In
this context, men should have devoted to work and if not, he
would have been blamed for as not been a manly man.
Man
should ride stern waves.
But
my
technique used for riding business waves did not work
to kill long meaningless hours. In second new life, almost of my
business techniques were denied their effectiveness completely.
For
example, talking to the point is regarded as brusque manner,
avoiding long meaningless chatter is considered as unsociable
attitude.
These
were just some of rules to be complied with in order to associate
with neighbors, which I could not stand. As I was quite stubborn,
even my optimistic wife gave up me on associating in
neighborhood.
Through
this kind of process, our marriage life was facing with more and
more difficulties.
(To be
continued......）
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