The behaviour of people is sometimes difficult to understand and is usually thought of in general terms such as
friendly, pleasant, bad tempered etc.
 If we look more closely at specific behaviour  patterns  we realize that in many cases a better understanding of
ourselves could  make life much more pleasant.
 Everyone  becomes  angry sometimes, some people  become angry often and some people are probably angry
all of the time,  but keep it suppressed.
 Anger is an emotional state which is  accompanied by physical  changes - blood  pressure is increased and also
heart rate - hormones are released which brings about a high  level of  excitement.
 This emotional state is very unpleasant  and because of the changed body chemistry, some period of time must
pass before the body returns to normal. This state of anger prepares the body for battle- an aggressive attitude.
Reason tends to be lost in the urge for active and physical response.
 It is not normal to be aggressive without some feeling of anger.
A feeling of relief and satisfaction usually follows physical activity against someone, something or oneself.
 The behavior of someone who is angry is also a form of body language which is saying
"I am suffering and intend to do something aggressive to ease the pain"
 

The painful state of anger can usually be avoided. It is the result of uncontrolled frustration.
Frustration is a feeling of stress which occurs when the world around us does not behave as we want it to,
 or is not as we want it to be. If this feeling of stress is allowed to reach a certain level anger begins to
take over.
One of the first signs of frustration is when the normal feeling of a relaxed state is replaced by a feeling of tension. A lot of practice is needed to recognize the signs at an early stage. Having determined the cause, the first priority is to try to relax and to analyze the problem in a logical manner. That would be the way an emotionally mature person would behave.
An immature person moves very quickly from
a state of frustration to become angry and aggressive.
 Revenge is an expression of hate. To encourage
a person to hit back is training them to hate.
 
 
 
 
 

   Much of our behavior is guided by instinct.
Examples would be walking, talking, eating as basic ones and many others  such as social behavior
and the appreciation of the arts.  Possibly  a special arrangement of brain cells would make it very easy
for some people to learn another language or play a musical instrument.
The brain has a pleasure centre and this is stimulated if our instinctive behavior is satisfactory -
a kind of learning by reward  - there is a feeling of happiness and relaxation.  But if  the  behaviour is
against our instincts there is a feeling of stress and depression. Unfortunately what our instincts
want us to do may be against the laws of our society and so another  system of rewards and punishments
exists. Instinctive behaviour can be trained or suppressed or directed into other channels such as aggression into sport.
There is an instinct to hate which is linked to anger and aggression. It is possibly necessary for success
in a very competitive society. Because hate  is an instinct, there is a pleasure response and if  it is not
controlled an individual could try to invent reasons for hating someone or something when no reason exists.
 

Drawing after Picasso    ' Child with a pigeon'   1901

To balance the instinct to hate there is an instinct for sympathy and to bond.
The instinct for sympathy does not appear to be very strong in our
society but seems to develop with teaching and training.
The instinct for sympathy is linked to the instinct to bond.
There is a section of the brain devoted to bonding and a need
to fill this section with bonds to individuals and groups.
We want to have friends and be accepted by others.
This part of our mind is so important that our thoughts tend
to return there when not occupied with more urgent matters.
A very dependent relationship and/or touching and physical
contact is important. Positive thoughts build a strong memory pattern
which can be very permanent. Any attempt to change a well developed
memory pattern causes stress- to break a well established bond is emotionally painful.  For example the
death of a close relative or much loved  pet.
Bonding is normally linked to sympathy but if sympathy is lost and replaced by hate the result is stress --
the easiest people to hurt are those closest.

Very important factors influencing relationships are appearance and beliefs.
These are also instinct dominated. The stability of a group or society depends on co-operation toward the same
goals and so individuals are constantly being tested for conformity. Changes are necessary for progress but these
are usually resisted and when they are finally accepted are disruptive for a short period until society adjusts.
In the animal world it is common for a species to have a complex courting behaviour which ensures that the
partners are normal and of the same tribe.
Appearance is also important as deformities are usually a physical handicap and society does not want these
passed on to the children.
Animals and birds reject sick and deformed members and because these do not breed only a very few will suffer.
The animals and birds in the wild state are very fit and healthy.
This is not important for man, as his research into the control of disease will eventually lead to complete control
and understanding of all health problems.

We all think that the appearance of a deformity is not pleasing
and tend to admire beauty and normality. To one particular
race of people, the features of different race appear abnormal
and some of us find it difficult to control the urge to reject them
as abnormal and inferior. Fortunately this instinct is not strong
in most people, and many others with a higher level of sympathy
and understanding can ignore it.
 
 
 

Most people cannot tolerate being bored and require a certain level of stimulus             .
either mentally or physically. As this level is different for each individual, what
is a low level for one person may be a high level for another. One person may
find a shopping excursion quite exciting and another parachute jumping or rock climbing.
   We are motivated to do something because it is -
1 Pleasant physically or mentally - eating, swimming, solving a
   problem,  curiosity.
2 Satisfies an instinctive urge - go to a party to be with people and friends
3 Because we have been conditioned to act or think that way - dress properly
4 Or because we are forced to for some reason or by someone - go to school
   If none of these conditions are satisfied, people will usually not participate unless they
are offered some reward or recognition.

The emotions of fear and excitement are opposite, but in some ways similar
Both are emotional states, which mean that hormones are released into the blood stream,
with resultant physical changes.
Fear is the anticipation of a unpleasant experience, and excitement is the anticipation of a pleasant experience.
Fear is as necessary for our survival as is pain, for without fear and pain children would very soon put
themselves into situations which would result in serious injury or death.
Most people enjoy a small amount of fear mixed with excitement, because some of the hormones released into
the body by fear are the same as those released by excitement and the combination increases the stimulation.
There is also the personal satisfaction of learning a new skill, of overcoming a particular fear and also the hope of
appearing more worthy to others.
The female of the species usually feels fear more intensely than the male because when threatened it is best that
she flee with the babies and children to safety and leave the male to cope with the threat.

Children naturally evolve a law of there own. 'Might is right ' which may
work for a militant group but not for a civilized society.
The laws of a country are designed to protect the individual to such an extent
that there should be no need to become aggressive, to hate or to fear
injury or injustice.
The following are criminal offenses for which a conviction could result in the
offender having a criminal record.
Assault - any interference with the lawful freedom or normal behaviour of
another person.    If there is any physical violence the charge would
   include bodily harm.
Incitement - planning with someone to commit a crime, is itself a  criminal offense.                             Criminal Assault-
Stealing - (Larceny, Theft ) Taking something from somewhere, or from someone,                              The victim feels
with the intention of depriving the owner of it.                                                                                        threatened
Arson - Setting fire to a house or building.
Drugs - Possession or the supply of illegal drugs.
   There are many other laws including -
Slander - Telling lies about another person.
Malicious damage - Damage to another persons property.
 

Criminal Assault & Battery - The victim suffers. ( in this case fear & stress)
 

                                                                                                                                                                 Bodily harm
 
 
 

Most of our relationships  in society are  not strong ties and would include those between  students and
teachers, shoppers  and shop assistants, neighbors and friends,  workers work mates bosses etc.
These  relationships must satisfy a need if  they are to continue to exist. They can be dependent-dependent
 relationships, dependent--dominant, or a  conditioned  relationship but not of course dominant-dominant,
which would be an argument - a person trying to dominate will usually raise their voice.
 Conditioning is basically a learning of a behaviour pattern. A child becomes conditioned to attend school,
to discipline, to be honest to be clean and  tidy etc. A soldier becomes  conditioned  to obey his
commanding officer and students their teachers.
 Nature has a system of rewards and punishments and happiness is a reward. Obviously to be happy all of
the time is not possible because it would no longer have any value for that purpose. Injury disappointments,
and the behaviour of other people cannot be avoided and as people grow older they are happy for
different reasons.
 Society can become what it would want to be by setting a system of values, and conditioning  the children
to accept  the  most desirable life style and trying to make it attainable for everyone.
 

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                            MORE IDEAS

There could be a social problem as the result of a possible ' Instinct to self destruct'

C.G. Jung found ' Introverts & Extroverts'

A. Adler   found an ' Inferiority Complex'
 ( Adler had the idea that children were born feeling inferior and spent the rest of
their lives trying to prove otherwise  -  The need to bond and be accepted ? )

S. Freud found ' The Death Wish '

These could all be a different view of the same thing -- an ' instinct to self destruct '
which could be high in children and which would normally be suppressed ( by training )
by the parents, their peers and society.
This instinct could have an evolutionary purpose as it would effectively destroy
unsuitable members without the intervention of society.
Or perhaps make them travel to a new environment ?
The drive of an instinct varies in strength from individual to individual.
An indication of this instinct, which had not been suppressed, would be a negative
attitude, pessimism, depression and possibly a degree of hostility depending on
the strength of the drive.

We are living in a paradise.
We have almost everything we need and if we don't have it, it can be found, discovered or made.
Consider substances such as timber, steel, glass, water, leather etc. It is difficult to improve on these.
The highly complex environment is almost too perfect.
Readily available materials combine with oxygen from the air to create combustion at about the required temperature.
Water boils and freezes at the best temperature
Etc. etc.
100 degrees higher or lower would be a disaster.
LIVING should be rewarding for all, and an experience not to be missed.
How could mankind make such a mess of it.