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It includes the integration of the spiritual, the emotional and the physical. Because of the feedback between these levels personal empowerment will exceed every expectation.
Optimal Vitality Care
1.
Personal Health Plan
1) Vitality Food (Intake)
2. What is offered here is optimal nutrition, organic quality, toxin and parasite-free, with an excess of alkaline (fruits, vegetables), low in animal protein - in case of subnutrition consult your doctor - rich in fiber, sugar- and yeastfree, de-acidifying, hypo-allergenic, if needed also gluten or milkfree, promoting optimal digestion, detoxifying, animal friendly, easy to prepare, simple, delicious and cheap. To put into practice for two months uninterruptedly! Do it together with your family - children older than twelve - or a friend in order to stimulate, encourage and support each other. Please, notice that these recommendations are for healthy people only. Amoung them very thin persons or those who are on a vegan diet should carefully consider participation. The diet has most benefit in people who have the common way of eating and drinking. For recipes and menus any vegetarian cook book will do, provided that recommendations are fulfilled, or otherwise see Appendix III, „Vitality Food Recipes", part of our „Flow System Therapy" book (See Step 2).
3. An optimal nutrition is part of your Personal Health Plan. Vitality Food is the result of a long experience + good idea’s of others as well. It includes an optimal nutrition for all disorders, slimming practices, regeneration, emotional balance and clarity of mind. It is very simple. The most important principles, apart from what already has been said, are:
*) Separation of carbohydrates (potatoes, cereals, rice, pasta, bread) and proteins (meat, fish, eggs, dairy and soy),
*) LUNCH SHOULD ALWAYS BE YOUR MAIN MEAL (e.g. the largest quantity),
*) At lunchtime eat always (salad+) vegetables first, then the proteins,
*) In the evening you should eat as EARLY and as LITTLE as possible,
*) CHEW WELL.
Choose whenever you can fresh, organic, whole food. Avoid sugar, white flour and all other processed industrial foods. Limit cooking, baking etc. as much as you can. The more simple your menu’s the better. In case of (serious) disorders/disease, consult your physician before starting the program.
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BREAKFAST
For two months: Fruits only
4. Until lunch time „fruits only". One kind a time. Limit or avoid the
super sweet ones (f.e. pear, peach, melon). Always half an hour in between various fruits.
Do not combine with anything else, except nuts and seeds. Chew well.
NB. In case of fermentation - gas and wind, heartburn or burping - instead of fruits, whole sandwich with limited butter, organic if possible, tahini or peanut butter, tomato, sugarfree jam or marmalade. From the second month on, yogurt with fruits/cereals or soft cheese curd thoroughly mixed with 1-2 tablespoons cold-pressed linseed oil + little honey, fruit and cereals, are also allowed. Neither take cheese nor milk.
LUNCH: YOUR MAIN MEAL
5. In the first month: vegetables +
carbohydrates + fats
This is a protein-free month (acc. to prof.dr.L.Wendt. See for
the logic of it my book "Flow System Therapy"): no meat, fish, eggs, dairy
products or soy (e.g. tofu). It consists of raw mixed salads with e.g. olive oil,
cold-pressed oil, seeds, nuts + lightly cooked vegetables + seaweed + boiled brown rice,
or potatoes, or whole cereals, or pasta, or corn - limited beans or lentils - or bread.
Fresh garlic is recommended. No dairy products/cheese.
6. In the second month two to three times a
week: vegetables + proteins + fats (vegetarian/non-vegetarian)
Consisting of raw mixed salads with e.g. cold pressed oils, olive oil etc. +
steamed vegetables + seaweed + tofu, or fish, or egg, or cheese (limited) + fat, or -
little or no - meat. Common vegetable oil or butter for baking and frying. Fresh garlic. Don’t
use margarine or industrial baking mixtures. Yogurt and soft cheese curd, the latter
very thoroughly mixed with 1-2 tablespoons cold-pressed linseed oil +
honey, fruit for dessert are allowed.(See "Flow System Therapy" for the
recipies). In the afternoon fruit (only apple) or rice crackers.
SUPPER
7. For two months: limited! vegetables + carbohydrates + fats
As early as possible (6:00 p.m. ), as little as possible, no complete meal, e.g.
soup + cracker, (very) small plate with steamed vegetables, or rice-vegetables. NO raw
salads or fruits, because of possible indigestion during the night.
Note: Carbohydrates: rice/ bread/ cereals/ potatoes/ pasta are okay, preferably NOT baked or fried with fat/oil/butter. Butter ON the bread is okay. Also NO proteins (meat, fish, tofu, cheese or egg) for supper, because of indigestion with possibility of self-poisoning as well. Chew well! In case of feeling hungry in the later evening, try to solve it by drinking water or eat a rice cracker.
AFTER TWO MONTHS
You may decide to go on with Vitality Food, which would be a very wise decision.
Breakfast and supper remain the same, lunch as the second month, with/without animal
protein. NB. In case you don't feel better after the diet, please, consult your physician.
8. P.S. In some cultures and/or countries people eat (very) late. Very often it may not be possible to avoid this. My advice: make your choices (if possible) according to Vitality Food principles as mentioned above, eat as less as possible, chew well AND ENJOY IT!
9. PS. Those with gluten, soy and/or milk-lactose intolerance e.g. allergy, and the undernourished of course, may need more animal protein: meat, fish and eggs, e.g. daily (at lunchtime).
DRINKING
10. Don’t drink coffee, cereal coffee (pure chicory
allowed), black tea, green tea, mate tea, rooibos tea, "fruit tea" (usually
black tea with aroma), vegetable juice or milk. Instead water - half
non-chlorinated from the tap (or otherwise boil it), the other half low sodium mineral
water, and herbal tea’s. Neither senna nor frangula should be in! Always look at
label. At least around 2-3 liters of fluids a day. More in hot climates. Always half an
hour between meals and the drinking. Avoid carbonated drinks: soft drinks, gas mineral
water, beer. Red wine - preferably of organic quality - instead often allowed: 1-2 glasses
a day. Not in case of candida, hypoglycemia, alcoholism, fatty liver,
pancreatic disorders etc. Consult your physician.
Flow System:
The dynamic equilibrium
between nutrition (1), digestion (2), blood circulation/transportation (3), combustion
(4), assimilation (5), detoxification (6) and elimination (7) of nutrients, water, waste
products and toxins respectively.
2) Pro-biotics (Digestion)
The intestinal flora - our own symbiotic healthy bacteria - plays a key role in optimizing the functions of digestion and immune system. Because of harmful influences - food, toxins, parasites, fungi, bacteria, viruses, chronic indigestion, iatrogenic (antibiotics), amalgam, environmental pollution, electro-smog - damage has occurred in almost everybody. Therefore, our flora has to be restored. Buy natural alive pro-biotics with at least three to four different varieties of bacteria. Just acidophilus or bifidus won’t do. Increase dosage over the weeks. If no pro-biotics available, take a lactic acid remedy. Dosage see label. Always in water before the meals.
3) Fitness/sweating (Combustion/Transport/Detoxification)
Depending on your condition, health situation and age, do daily exercise - six days a week - like walking, cycling, stretching ( e.g. for handicapped), jogging or swimming. A minimum of 20-30 minutes per day is required. Drink one or two cups hot herbal sweating tea, common lime/tilia blossom, elderberry blossom/sambucus niger or others, with honey before starting. Take shower after. Maybe you like to go to the sauna once a week. Those who are interested in doing our special simple! Qi-gong exercises, please order our video (especially suitable for the elderly). PS. Keep warm feet under any circumstance, with warm water bottle, walking, socks, massage.
4) Supplements (Assimilation)
Two months intake of daily coverage of all the necessary vitamins, minerals and trace-elements, usually available in ONE tablet or capsule („multiple"). Take normal natural brands from health food store, with dosages around twice as high as the Recommended Dietary Allowances (RDA). Additionally spirulina and calcium citrate can be taken.
5) Detoxification/De-acidification
Detox (of e.g. heavy metals) and regeneration through chlorophyll liquid (Be sure it is natural!) or chlorella. Follow recommendations on the label. Additional daily lymph cleansing through „oil chewing". Before breakfast take one dessert spoon sunflower oil (preferably cold-pressed) in your mouth. Chew, suck, pump and gargle energetically during 20 minutes. Don’t swallow even one drop! In the end the oil has become foamy. It means, it is saturated with toxins. Spit it out. Wash mouth with warm water and spit it out as well. Then brush your teeth. Those, who until now were eating/drinking considerable amounts of - meat, fish, egg, cheese, coffee and tea - additionally take three times a week two times a day half a (small) teaspoon sodium bicarbonate („alkali flush") in water on empty stomach, provided it is tolerated well. It supports the de-acidification of your tissues. Take a pressed lemon regularly with some honey. Note: Strive for a non-toxic household. Very important is the use of fluoride free toothpaste, non-toxic detergents and either (black) ceramic alu or glass pots and pans. Absolutely NO common alu-ware.
6) Liver flush according to Dr.R.Stone (Detoxification)
Half way your program (second month) take one glass with 1 squeezed grapefruit, 1 ditto orange, 1-2 squeezed lemons, 1-3 squeezed big fresh cloves of garlic and 1-2 tablespoons pure olive oil. Mix and take it on empty stomach before breakfast. Eat fruits and vegetables only that day, nor any of my medicines. It is excellent for cleansing your liver. A „healthy" flare-up reaction may occur (e.g. fatigue, sleeplessness). If it feels good, you can repeat it the week after. One to two times a week, to a maximum of three to four weeks. In case of sensitivity of your stomach, liver, gallbladder or pancreatic disease - in the past, e.g. gastritis, ulcer, mononucleosis, chronic hepatitis, alcoholism!, tropical diseases, pancreatitis, acute gallbladder spasm etc. - the liver flush is contra-indicated. In cases of doubt do consult your doctor.
7) Guasha (Immune-stimulant/Detoxification)
Revolutionary Chinese detox and immune-stimulating therapy. Guasha means „scraping". Through scraping your skin (with oil!) (subcutis, connective tissue, muscles, blood vessels, nerves, bones and joints) of head and abdomen, an integral regenerative reflex-effect on your entire system is achieved. The scraper („bao yu") is made of jade. You can order it from us, together with the instruction manual for limited self-treatment. For details, see www.guasha.8m.com
8) Anti-oxidants (Detoxification)
Additional advice for neutralizing harmful free radicals. Recommended for those who are chronically tired, are undernourished, having no energy, live in unhealthy circumstances (pollution, electro-smog) or are in a stage of recovery. Apart from your daily "multiple" choose a combination of at least vit. C (max. 1000 mg) and E (200 IU), selenium (100 mcg), zinc (30 mg), beta-carotene (5.000 IU) and alpha lipoic acid (50 mg) as a daily dosage.
9) Bowel Cleansing (Elimination)
YOUR ABDOMINAL SELF-DIAGNOSIS
1) normal
2) pulled in (irritation/inflammation)
3)gas belly (fermentation)
4) servere gas belly (impairment of diaphragm movements
5) sagged "stool" belly
6) stool belly with inflammation 7)combined gas and stool belly
8) combined gas,stool and inflammation belly
(acc. to Dr. E. Rauch)
Indigestion with self-pollution - toxins re-entering your bloodstream - is a major
cause of all disease. Daily intake of 2 teaspoons green clay („argyle") with
water (in the morning and evening) will neutralize the polluters. Notice: clay could cause
constipation. In that case take (5 minutes after intake of the clay) a quarter or
(sometimes) half a teaspoon of vitamin C powder (always with sour taste!),
therefore in water or apple juice) until daily bowel movement is restored. Everyday
intake won’t be a problem, unless it irritates the stomach. In that case, try another
very mild (herbal) laxative. A good idea is to additionally take MgSO4 (magnesium sulfate), 1 tablespoon (30 gr.) dissolved into one
glass (250-300 cc) lukewarm water, everything to be drunk half an hour
(not more not less) before going to bed two days a week (e.g. the weekend). The diarrhoea
the other morning after waking up, is what was aimed at. Do not use in chronic diarrhoea
(colitis). In case of doubt: Consult your physician. Note: You should never have
any constipation!
10) Drinking (Cure) (Elimination)
Sufficient daily intake of fluids, is the first prerequisite for becoming (staying) healthy. It is the necessary tissue irrigation and kidney-cleansing. Usually, real thirst will appear, only after the first three days of self-imposed drinking (to restore the sponge activity of your tissues) of at least TWO to THREE liters of water (boiled, non-chlorinated!, purified, bottle, mineral water, more in hot climates) and kidney herbal teas (3-4 cups a day orthosiphonis or solidago tea) daily! Plus pure (mixed) herbal „diuretic" tea’s, any, however without black tea, chemicals, senna or frangula. Always half an hour between drinking and eating. No coffee, black tea or alcohol (1-2 glasses of - organic - red wine allowed, unless forbidden by your doctor. Not in case of severe stress, fatigue or exhaustion!). Neither smoking nor drugs.
NB. Take all your remedies/medicines during the day at least 2-4 hours distance from the intake of the green clay. The cure is harmless and without any side-effects. Some (many) allopathic medicines can be stopped in the course of this self-treatment. In case of doubt always ask your consulting doctor. After two months continue the food (less strict), the drinking, regular bowel cleansing (e.g. one weekend a month), the exercises and the sweating. You will find all relevant information in our Flow System Workbook (See Step 2). Usually, one two months Personal Health Plan in two to three years should be enough, provided you live healthy in between. You may extend this program with another month. If, after two (three) months still no or insufficient result is achieved, you may think of consulting a (holistic) MD. Usually the following will play a role:
1) Amalgam or other metal fillings 2) „Foci" which means chronic (symptomless) inflammations with an effect on your general condition mostly from areas in the head (teeth, tonsils, sinuses) 3) Parasites, bacteria, viruses 4) Gluten or/and milk/lactose intolerance or allergy 5) Some other allergies 6) Geopathy (harmful influences from the earth) 7) Electro-smog: the sum total of radar, satellites, electricity, handy’s, radio, TV, computer etc. 8) Serious environmental pollution 9) Iatrogenic (allopathic medicines) 10) Irreparable chronic disease 11) Serious immune-deficiencies 12) Problems of the spine 13) Psychological, social factors and stress.
When ill ask your consulting doctor for additional advice before starting the program.
1) In case you are going to follow the Personal Health Plan you promise me to consistently and accurately follow all details of my recommendations. Only then your regeneration process will be optimal.
2) It is strongly recommended to do this self-help course together with other (adult) members of your family, a friend or a colleague for mutual support.
3) This plan is for healthy individuals only. We are not responsible for anything that happens during or after your program. The liability is entirely yours. In the first week of the course (normal) flare up symptoms (fatigue, fever, pain, nausea etc.) may occur. It means your detox functions well.
4)Your symptoms may become improved or entirely disappear. It works through improving your health - as its positive "side-effect" - rather than treating a particular disease. A guarantee in the strict sense cannot be given though.
5) In receiving the "bao yu" (see under 7 in the Personal Health Plan) you will find a small questionnaire for assessing the results. Please fill it in after having finished the program and send it back to us. Thanks.
2. EMOTIONAL SELF-INTEGRATION
In a time in which everything is disintegrating, it is even more crucial to understand and be able to „manage" yourself. First there is awareness, your invisible and intangible Self. It is your inner Space in which everything is happening. This, your (great) Mind is like an aquarium. Its Essence is the water, while your psyche (small mind) - your thoughts, dreams, images, desires, emotions, ideas and judgements - is the content. The latter are the fishes. Being aware means, that you are „simply" clarity, observing yourself from a „point of reference" outside of your psyche, while everything is continuously going „through" you. Because this flow appears to be your surface, your Center will not be touched by it. There is a discontinuity between the two. The paradox is this: the more you step back, the more intimate „the flow of life", the more intense you will be able to enjoy the „dance of the universe" within you. It is like the mother watching her child playing in the sand. Without interfering she is aware of its movements, she controls by not-controlling.
However, this isn’t the entire story. The problem is, that not everything of the self (psyche) is floating freely all the time. There seem to be „obstacles" regularly. Too often you are confronted with „problems", difficulties, stress and anxieties. Not always things go as smooth as you would like to. Why? It is because your self is like a castle with a wall between your accepted and non-accepted parts. In the past you suppressed those parts, which at that moment were too painful to digest. Therefore your identity - the one you think you are, your small self - is the outcome of a „filtering" process. You are „somebody by exclusion", the result of a process of (unconscious) acceptance and rejection. In fact everybody is a split personality. In the interior of the castle there is „you", while outside there is not-you. These non-accepted parts were once also part of the integrated self though, hence they keep „knocking at your door", in a „desperate attempt" to still becoming part of the whole. These are your „negative, disturbing" step-children, waiting for your loving embrace.
you are the product of exclusion
It is in your vital interest to still opening yourself up to these rejected parts. For several reasons. First, these are parts of yourself, they ought to be integrated, fully acknowledged aspects. Because they will never give up , you cannot prevent yourself from suffering of nuisance. Despite your efforts to keep yourself under control, „negativity" will once and again be spoiling your fun, disturbing your well-being, if not directly, then indirectly as physical disorder or illness. Moreover, by (unconsciously) suppressing yourself, you have been excluding many areas of life, in such a way, that they are not accessible for happiness, renewal, effectiveness and a fruitful relationship with your environment. The keeping it outside is consuming a major part of your daily energy. A great deal of your stress, fatigue and burn out, has its origins there. Thirdly, without opening yourself up to your suppressed parts, there will be no inner growth. Inner growth is the continuous incorporation of the unknown into the known. What is the fun of repeating the known after all? Very soon you will be bored. Hence, people are looking constantly for „new things" - shopping, distraction, holidays, relationships, computer games, adventures - in the outside world. They want to „become renewed" by outer kicks. However, because these experiences remain at the periphery, these escapes never really satisfy. Hence your need for more - of the same - all the time. It is craving for happinness, while (because) never achieving it. It is the mechanism of the current collective pattern of addiction.
The inner process is different though. The paradox is this: the more you consciously! welcome your „negativity", the more „positive" you become. It is the secret of inner alchemy. It is completely opposite to those who advocate „positive thinking". They simply go on with the old accepting („I") - rejecting („not I") game! Unconsciously they go on strengthening their inner wall against themselves. They show only one side of their face, since they have a problem acknowledging their shadow. „Spirituality" is their escape. While they are parading - „radiating" - with their „positivity" - and even teaching others how to be „spiritual" - their negativity is accumulating inside. How much energy this will take from them all the time! Until a point, that they cannot keep up their „face" anymore. These people are a victim of ignorance, they are trapped by their own tricks. In reality „positivity" and „negativity" are both complementary parts of the self. Suppressing one in favor of the other, is thus a dead end. Instead, by becoming aware, you go beyond both of them. By stepping back, you are allowing both to be part of your inner space. Without being affected by them, you allow them to play their complementary game. Together with the growth of wisdom, compassion and strength, countless valuable experiences, insights and information will be flowing to you. Once the „negativity" becomes part of the Self again - through awareness, acknowledging, accepting and embracing - it looses its „negative" character, while its energy will be benefiting the whole.
Through „managing your thinking", you have found awareness, your real Self. The next step is to start working on the integration of your psyche, your small self. Usually your self is without control, divided. Various parts prove to be stronger than your Self, hence you don’t know this your Real Within. Your are a slave of your impulses. Although you say: „I think", you better say „I am being thought". It is closer to reality. Hence the Dutch say: „I am in thoughts". Thoughts are dominating you all the time. Therefore, you need conscious integration. However, if you want to balance yourself, you will need a balancing matrix first. For two (or more) things to balance you need a centre from which you achieve the balancing. Think of a balance. To re-arrange all these different parts, awareness and your conscious self - reflection - are at your disposal. Once you have found the key, bringing about harmony in yourself appears to be surprisingly simple.
In fact by becoming aware, to be in your Heart, your new Center, you are already balanced, you have found your Center, from which it is easy to become aware of the periphery, your thoughts, emotions and desires. Previously you were at your periphery hence your thinking, emotions and desires seemed to be your "within". However, while making your shift from the periphery to the Center, your processes have moved to the without, they now appear to take place at your periphery. Living comfortably in your Center, the handling of the cyclone therefore becomes a play rather than an effort.
to be turned upside down
The first principle is: don’t try to change yourself. By trying to change yourself, one part is always set against the other. A dominant part is not satisfied with the other, usually the opposite. For instance, the „pusher" inside of you thoroughly hates the „good-for-nothing", hence will try to re-educate this „disturbing element". However, one part fighting the other, isn’t exactly where you were waiting for. Because wasn’t this your suffering from the very beginning after all? Immediately after birth - or even before - your parents had an expectation about how you „should become". In fact, very few children are accepted exactly the way they are. You always have to become "somebody else". Not the one you are, but how they hope you are going to be, has been engraved in you from the very start. It is (was) one of the causes of your (later) suffering.
be what you were never allowed to
The reason why I am "against change" is, that it is not the way to bring about wholeness. The ambition to change yourself, only makes the problem bigger. People, who want to change themselves, lack self-acceptance, the only thing which could really heal them. So e.g. no "spiritual" fights against the "ego" anymore, one of toady's most popular self-tortures. Free yourself from this „spiritual" idealism, which in fact is the latest variation of the old guilt and sin complex - old wine in new bags - a new self-hatred indeed. No, in order to be whole, you have to become open to all those parts, which for some reason or another were once rejected: your fear, pain, anger and „ugliness", together with - as a consequence of - all kinds of early conclusions, which from then on have been dominating your life. Once consciously and lovingly accepting yourself, lots of things will be spontaneously and miraculously changing!
Step number two in your self-healing is to consider all "disturbances", problems, emotions, conflicts, obsessions and suffering not as you, but as parts of yourself, which once - mostly at the start of your life - were denied, excluded, rejected or suppressed. It will be a great relief to you to realize, that you are not your „negativity"- with all its effects: feeling guilty, inferiority complex, selfishness, „spiritual" ambition - but that it is only part of you. You have it, rather than being it. Realizing this, you can handle them better, because they don’t push you down anymore. As a child you couldn’t cope with them, usually because you felt too much risk by expressing, showing or even feeling them. At childhood you are completely helpless, you depend entirely on your parents (environment). Hence, any risk is a survival matter. However, now this survival situation is no more there, you can open yourself up to it, without any risk.
Step number three is to confirm, that the disturbing emotion is there. "Okay, this part of me does feel irritated". To acknowledge the fact, is where it is all about. Usually your reflexes automatically fight any unwelcome emotion immediately after it has come up, or even before. You are not aware of it and yet this is happening hundreds of times a day. This „keeping down" takes enormous amounts of energy. It causes lots of stress. Therefore a simple confirmation is a big relief. When a sigh comes up, it means that the emotion was (is) very deep indeed.
Step number four is giving the emotion - the part - every space it needs. You do it, by consciously identifying with the part. Is there an irritation, then - after you have recognized it as a part of yourself - you subsequently become it. E.g. „yes, this morning, when I woke up, I was so fed up with Jack. I feel so neglected by him. And this goes on already for such a long time" etc. For a while - 5 to 15 minutes - you let the part talk, while totally identifying yourself with it. You will be surprised: the part has so many things to tell (to you). To give the emotion every space it needs, may not be always easy. To feel the pain, the anger, the fear or the suppressed lust for life is not always easy. However, if you feel the urge to cry, shout, move or fight, you cry, shout, move and fight.
The fifth principle. What is crucial at this stage is, that you let your emotion make a shift from the present to the past. If you’re angry with your wife, drop focusing on your wife, but imagine to be that small child you once were. Replace the image by that of your mother, your aunt or your teacher from that long time ago. If you feel pain because of something, you imagine to be that very small child you once were, feeling that pain. And don’t make a mistake, those emotions are usually not „childlike". To the contrary, they are mostly unobstructed and enraged. Express the emotions of that particular child, while simultaneously remaining the observer. You let go, while staying in control.
you can only let go, what has been accepted first
The sixth principle. In this stage, it is very important that you try to express yourself the same moment the emotion comes up. In daily life this could be difficult sometimes, since you are mostly busy and in company. The reason is, that only in that particular moment your system is ready to express the emotion, and a real release could take place. Everything inside is co-operating with it, hence you should not miss the opportunity. Do not wait until the evening, „when you have more time". So you apologize to the people you’re with and go to your sleeping room, to give space to the part, the talking, the crying, the anger. You may "strangle the pillow". The second rule is, that you always do the things alone. In all these stages, you never involve anybody else in it.
Step number seven is to step back from your identification with the part, by identifying with the conscious self - the reflection - again. Note: only if in the previous stage you have given all space to the emotion. Reflection always comes after the (full) experience. You now have changed your inner position from the part to the whole again. From here you look at the part, reflecting about what just happened. Now, there appears to be an inner distance between you and your part. Hence, you are in a position of overview and insight. You now try to look at it from the perspective of interpretation. Before, you were identified with the emotion, now you are here and the emotion is „there". You are now able to understand the meaning of what has happened, you interpret and comment on it. For instance, you recognize the pain, the anxiety or the fear from the past. You understand, that at that time, these parts were too painful to become integrated. Sometimes great insight is born, a real breakthrough indeed. Suddenly you see the „connection", the origin of your pain. Often early childhood conclusions appear to be the root of it all: „they didn’t love me", „I have to survive" or „feeling is dangerous", „I am loosing control", „they trapped me" or „nobody can be trusted", may have been a conditioning context for many of your later experiences in life. Recognizing them will free you from your inner prison.
The eighth’s step is the embracing. Once you have given space to the emotion, with the subsequent reflection, you are welcoming it as a part of yourself, as the child which has come home, „the son that was lost". This special child, this alienated part which suffered so much because it wasn’t allowed to be part of the whole for a lifetime! It is important to embrace your emotion "physically", e.g. visualizing yourself as a mother embracing her child that was lost. Feel it at your chest, at your alive, open and loving Heart. Celebrate it as a real home-coming. And this again and again. The miracle is this: once you lovingly accept your inner child it will - step by step - loose its „negative" character. It is like a child stopping crying, once the mother has taken it on her lap. Last but not least, by loving yourself, you will become aware of the Source of Love: your Self. Be silently in this Source for a while.
I am in love with my
Self
My Self is in love with all and everything
Finally. Chronic disease very is often closely knit with your dominant psychological pattern, your „I". The advice „be the one you were never allowed to be", therefore can do miracles. By identifying yourself with the opposite pole, turning everything upside down, to really carry out all the secret desires, frustrations, the things of which you were dreaming as a child, you are withdrawing all the existing psychological feeding to the disease, the reason why the latter may disappear instantly. Note: actors, people, who change roles frequently, usually become very old. But also in normal situations, the emotion is sometimes very much linked to parts of your body. For instance, if you feel your stomach, put your hands on that particular part and keep feeling it during the entire exercise. Include this part in your final embrace. After having finished it, you sometimes may feel the need of painting, the creative expression of your experience. Or sometimes you would like to do a role-play. Or sometimes you would like to tell somebody about it. Do all things as you prefer, but only after you have completed the last step. To avoid projection, talk to a neutral -empathic - person first. Then secondly you talk to your partner.
The core of your suffering is being cut off from the vertical dimension of life: your True Self - "Heaven" - as with the horizontal, your body and its direct environment: earth. Hence you are disoriented, uprooted, alienated and isolated. You are an island separated from the Ocean of Life. Without roots you are in the grip of the small self: your self-centeredness, your thoughts, emotions and desires. They appear to be stronger than you, to such an extent, that you don’t even know who you Really are. Additionally, your small self is amplified by „society" in such a way, that no escape seems to be possible anymore. Self-addiction runs rampant. However, you have paid a high price already. Stress, burned out syndrome, anxiety, depression, fatigue and exhaustion are already „surrounding" you, poisoning the atmosphere. Life has become so complicated, that you now painfully feel the consequence of missing a Center, your inner stability. Maybe you tried things already. However, without solving your existential problem no any other problem will ever be really solved. How can you cure the branches of a tree, if the roots are cut?
NOW A NEW
ERA HAS BEGUN IN WHICH MORE AND MORE PEOPLE
WILL ACKNOWLEDGE AND SHARE THE SAME COMMON FACT OF LIFE:
MAN ROOTED IN ‘HEAVEN’ AND EARTH
Isn’t it a fact beyond any belief, that your spirit has its home in the Great Spirit (Consciousness, the Ultimate, "Heaven"), while your body is part of nature? Yes indeed, it is existential. Everybody without any exception is part of "Heaven" and earth. Whether you are an atheist, agnostic, a humanist, christian, taoist, confucianist, buddhist, moslem, jew, hindu, a member of an indigenous religion, some new sect or new age group, we all share the same basic situation. Therefore, by restoring the Unity with "Heaven" and earth, you will solve your existential problem of alienation and isolation. Subsequently, your confusion and suffering will be turning into clear insight, Realisation, knowledge, joy, inner balance, creativity, compassion, commitment, strength, energy, optimal health and longevity.
The first step is to fully become aware of your suffering. Without an acknowledgement of your actual state, no any real healing is possible. Instead of escaping, you open yourself to your reality as it is. If painful, then you feel the pain. To such an extent, that the longing for wholeness will become deeply rooted in yourself. The pain - frustration, anxiety - has to become the trigger to the quest for wholeness. Maybe it is the pain of past experiences, your relationships, your work or the consequence of a false (pseudo-spiritual) identity. It doesn’t matter. Once you move into the right direction, you start acknowledging the fact, that your spirit, your True Self - currently unknown by yourself - has its home in „Heaven" - the Great Spirit - while your body is part of the earth. Hence, a deep longing for home coming, for Unity, takes possession of you. There are many ways of restoring the twofold Unity with „Heaven" and earth. You may already have found your way. However, if this is not yet the case, you may try the following.
The material wealth is the other side of our Western spiritual poverty. Long ago our Essence - „Heaven" and earth - were, in the name of „religion", taken from us and we were thrown back upon our selves. As overcompensation for the inner loss, we took refuge in the ego, „growth", accumulation and the material side of life. Spiritual Realization - the unity with your deepest Self - was considered as „heresy", for which you could be burned on the stake. An equally grave sin was to be connected to nature. Nature, the body, women and sex, were denounced as works of the „devil". Ever since, our basic condition still is the alienation from the Ultimate - the Heaven which we are ourselves - and isolation from our body, nature, the earth. Our small self is deprived of its Origin, to which it cannot return anymore. Because our small self lost its Home, it became completely uprooted, disoriented, confused and restless. Nobody knew who he was, where he came from or where he was going. Rather than being a function of the true Self, our small self started functioning on its „own", blowing itself up more and more. However, without being rooted all our „achievements" whatsoever are illusionary - bubbles - they appear to be nothing but substitutes of the „Real Thing". Hence, despite all our efforts, unless we find this our twofold roots again, we will never be at ease with existence. True homecoming - the ultimate stress-management - means restoring the unity with where we belong: with our spirit in the Ultimate and with our body in the earth.
3. THE SPIRITUAL PRACTICE
Rooted in "Heaven"
The starting point for entering the state of Wholeness is painful self-awareness, longing and faith. Painful self-awareness is the outcome of the realization of your real situation: your alienation from your True Self and therefore from „Heaven". This question has to be regularly repeated; „what is my actual condition in this moment, my actual state of awareness?" Am I in the HereNow or „somewhere else?" Am I really in the Moment, or lost in the labyrinth of the mind, in thinking, dreaming or desiring?" Am I really honest or am I deluding myself with false (pseudo-spiritual) self-images? Once you realize your alienation, longing for restoring the Wholeness is born. It is the foundation of faith. The stronger the longing, the easier faith „in the Divinity within and without" will be. Faith is needed, because you haven’t actually experienced "Heaven" yet. So you have to accept, what somebody who has been „at the Other Shore", will tell you.
Heaven is commonly understood as the sky. It is the space, the matrix we all live in. We move in it and breath its air. Through space all-that-lives is interconnected, we all share the same space. Now space has different dimensions, the „visible" part and what is beyond. Both have a great deal of transparency. For example, you see the sky, but in fact he is intangible. The intangible, however, even reflects something which is totally beyond, something that cannot be grasped with the five senses ever. It is the Homeland of the sky, it is the Great Consciousness: „Heaven". When you go beyond the sky, for example by looking at the sky in such a way, that it becomes Seeing, then the true essence of the sky may be revealed to you. Once you go beyond your own five senses, you go beyond the sky as well. Your inner Being becomes suddenly united with the outer Being. Inner and outer appear to be One. You have become „Heaven" which You Are Yourself. Faith has turned into Realization.
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In The Original Tradition being rooted in „Heaven", in the Ultimate, is one part of become Whole again, apart from being rooted in the earth. It is the recognition of the fact, that we already live in „Heaven" without knowing it. Aren’t we already living in space after all? Space as well as us share the same Homeland. One first (small) step of experiencing it, is becoming so clearly aware of the space around you, that you start seeing the light aspect of it. Another way, however, is to let an inner whispering become the vehicle of your longing and faith. Something you can put into practice twenty four hours a day. The usage of a mantra is as old as mankind’s memory. It is the bridge „to the Other Shore", the „Other Shore", which you Are yourSelf. Therefore the quest for the Ultimate is t opening up to yourSelf, to What You Really Are, the „Heaven" within. The facilitating mantra I have chosen sounds „Back to the Depth of my Origin".
While breathing in you whisper „Back". Notice the contradiction of it. While you would like to go „forward" the „back" reminds you of your Origin, the Source of all existence. Then, while breathing out, you gently whisper „to the Depth", accompanying your breathing out until its deepest point. Then in the turning point, the sacred moment of „nothingness", „of my Origin" is whispered in a very gentle, longing and faithful way. The secret is this: First you „use" the mantra to open up yourSelf, later your true Self will „use" the mantra to open you up. Once you feel the (sudden) transition between effort - doing it yourself - and effortlessness - something Within is doing it - then you will know, that a major shift has been made. Joy comes up and gratitude, for the simplicity of this gift is Great. You have come Home. It is the time, that the mantra can be simplified. Instead of „Back to the Depth of my Origin" only „Origin", „Depth" or „Back" will come up. However, in times in which your practice fades, regular going back to the entire mantra appears to be recommendable.
Rooted in the Earth
The „Twofold Origin" is the key practice of The Original Tradition. As your spirit has its home in Heaven, so your body-mind is part of the earth, while the earth is part of the universe. The universe is the manifestation of the Divine, it is „the mystical body of God". Therefore, both your body and the earth are parts of the „body of God". However, through identification with your mind, your thinking, dreaming and desiring, you have lost contact with both your own body and nature. You - the mind - became isolated, deprived of your natural matrix. The natural state though, is to be integrated both with „Heaven" (vertical) on the one hand and the earth (horizontal) on the other. Once you become (painfully) aware of your separation from the vertical (alienation), as well as from the horizontal (isolation), you will start your search for healing, for becoming whole again. For example, you see this tree in front of your home. You have seen him your whole life. But did you really ever felt him? Did you really establish any deeper contact with him ever? To feel the pain of being an outsider in this world, will certainly help your longing for wholeness. To restore the unity with your body and your extended body, nature and the earth, I emphasize the daily practice of feeling, body and contact awareness.
It is rather simple. The key function is called „feeling awareness". It means, that in every situation you will become aware of the feeling contact of your body with its immediate surroundings. When you walk, you feel your feet touching the ground, when you sit, you feel the contact of your bottom with the chair and while laying down, you feel the sensations of your back in contact with the bed. Notice, this is a feeling exercise. It is not about thinking! You will feel your feet while walking, you are aware of the sensations, caused by the contact of your feet with the ground. There appears to be a direct relationship between awareness and feeling, without thoughts interfering. Also, this exercise has nothing to do with concentration. Through concentration you narrow your mind in order to stick to something, e.g. an inner or outer object. It requires will-power and is therefore limited. You will become tired, distracted or get headache sooner or later. Feeling awareness, on the other hand, is opening yourself up like a flower. Instead of „going out", you relax and remain centered, while the feelings and sensations are coming to you. It is the „female" way. While things come to you, you open up more, enjoying both your feelings and your expanding awareness. Feelings and awareness thus having a positive feed-back towards each other. The more inner clarity, the more intense the felt energies and vice versa. Hence, the slogan is „watch and feel, feel and watch". By doing so, your awareness will slowly establish an integration between your body and its surroundings. By doing so, more and more of your (direct) environment will become part of your inner space. Everything appears to be an extension of your body, becomes interconnected.
Great joy is born. The chair, the floor, the table with the flower vase, all become the experience of your extended body, hence your separation has ceased to exist. You feel interconnected, a part of a greater whole again. You realize to never have been lonely ever, for via your body you are always in contact, uninterruptedly. Realizing this, great gratitude is born, you may spontaneously kneel on the ground kissing it, simply for being there, for its great gift. Everything you touch, is a part of you, hence real compassion is born, the same compassion a mother feels for her child. „You love your neighbour like yourself". If one hurts a tree you are hurt, if one hurts an animal the same. Note: You’re hurt - the self - and not-hurt - your inner Space. Moreover, everything has regained its original wonder and awe. Everything you touch has the touch of the mystery of existence. You see and feel the expression of the Divine in everything around you. Therefore, while touching the tree, the leaves and the flower, you may intuitively whisper: „the body of God". Once you have established this „primordial" unity, the second step will be to practice your „feeling awareness", while doing more complicated things, for example brushing your teeth, reading the newspaper, in making love, driving the car, rushing to the meeting, watering the plants or cooking. While doing these things, you keep feeling your feet, bottom and back. The last degree of difficulty is to „remain undisturbed", while communicating with human beings, in the meeting, while talking, while arguing or helping.
the greatest freedom: to become part of the Whole again
Crucial in the practice of your twofold Origin is the simultaneity. It is about whispering the mantra, while simultaneously practising feeling awareness. Only then sooner or later (sooner) the Vertical - "Heaven" - will be overflowing in the horizontal - your body, the earth - in the crossing of the two, the Heart. In the Heart you are transcending the duality, in such a way, that it appears to be Oneness, the all-embracing Dimension. The earth has - once again - become part of the abundance of „Heaven". Once established, joy, true insight, strength and compassion will be overflowing and never leave you anymore. A new man is born, one who is renewing the world together with him. You appear to be the Space in which everything is interconnected. Your freedom is limitless, while committed to all „sentient and non-sentient beings". You have become One with the dance of the universe - wu-wei - doing through non-doing, silence in action. Once united with your Origin, many will seek refuge in you. You will share you Wholeness with the despaired, your Love with those who suffer, your Light with those who are ignorant and your Strength with the deprived. Or you will be simply a good neighbour or friend. Note: More about „feeling awareness", you will find in HMS „Flow System Therapy".
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