We Are Childfree

Well, let me tell ya, this is the life. Bruce and I live for ourselves. We enjoy our nieces and love spoiling them, but really, we love to be at home, relaxing with our cats. We can pick up at a moment's notice, without having to worry about hauling extra stuff, getting a babysitter, sick kids, and so on. We can go out anytime. Mind you, I fret enough about the kitties.... We can enjoy each other's company without being interrupted every other minute (besides the kitties!). We were married in the Bahamas in 1998, and together since June of 1987. Our vasectomy (well, Bruce's vasectomy!) was done in 1998.

Why have we chosen not to have children? (And you know, it is a choice everyone has). A variety of reasons. Mostly lifestyle reasons. Some medical reasons. We were on the path to deciding to become childfree when some issues to having healthy children arose, and that solidified our choice. We love spending time with each other, and would like our lives to continue that way.

We're lucky. We don't have friends and family always asking us why we don't have kids. We told them straight out we're not having any, and they accept our decision. If someone asks me why I don't have children, I ask them why they do (when I'm brave enough!)?

I'm not going to lie and say life without children is all roses. Just as if someone who has children wonders at times what it would be like to be childfree, we sometimes wonder what it would be like to have children. A good friend who also chose to be childfree with her partner questioned me on it one day, wondering about her feelings that left her feeling down at times. I told her I believe that although I made the choice to live my life without a biological child, I felt I went through a grieving period, perhaps, on some minute level, as if I were told I could never have children. She completely agreed, saying this is along the lines of what she too was feeling. I compare it to the road not travelled. If I have a fork in the road and pondered which to take, I would often wonder what delights lay down the road not travelled. Same as in having an interview for two jobs you really want. I got both. I had to choose one. I chose the one I really want, but also wanting the other. I will wonder what I'll be missing at the other, but know things happen for a reason. That is how I rationalize my choice and how I feel about my choice.

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