May 6, 2003 - "Don't let him get to your heart"

Wow what a day. Got up at 8am cuz I was supposed to help Marianne move stuff from her apartment down to her locker space and in the end I convinced her to go running with me at that ungodly hour... (to which someone once said, "But God's still awake so why is it ungodly") and then afterwards ran around her building moving stuff. Came back to my place to study... finally. Got some done, I'm proud to say. Dharshan came over and we had wild sex. I mean, umm... haha.. nah, just kidding. It was good to see the boy again - lots of talking and catching up. This guy is wonderful - I am so honest with him, and he with me, and we've never let each other down yet. Umm, we went to run errands, got dragged into the Condom Shack by Marianne and Dharshan. I don't know what everyone's fascination with my "love" life is.. or rather sex life (or lack of one). Everyone is trying to get me laid. Someone should form a club. Actually, please don't. haha.. Studied some more, took a nap where EVERYONE woke me up by calling. Grr. Just as I was about to sleep, Shalini called to confirm dinner, then Marianne called to tell me something which I totally forget, that's how gone I was... and Steve called but I had no clue it was him. I was like, hello? He goes, "You are a bad bad girl...I just got your voicemail from when you were drunk last Thursday" I even had to ask who it was calling!! He's my best friend and I couldn't recognize his voice. It's his birthday today - 22 years old... wow.

Finally got to sleep, woke up and went to Sushi Inn to meet Shalini for dinner. She's going to Lancaster next year for the study abroad program! My gosh.. this girl and I had our first real conversation in Strachan last year and I remember we talked so much that they had to kick us out. How crazy is that - we got kicked out of a residence dining hall... so we met up and I just got back - 3 hours later... craziness. We were talking about everything - life passions, guys, friends etc. She's one of the first people that I told about wanting to open a restaurant and she has always said, "Why not?" I will get it done.

We talked about guys and basically the gist of it is that in high school, high school guys were fine to go out with. Now that we're in college, where we came to get away from high school guys, we can't go for college guys anymore - they're just high school guys who followed us to college. This older guy phenomena is quite something.. it's something about a guy being assured, assertive, having confidence that is so sexy. And it's one of those things that is evident by the way he carries himself, but it comes with age and experience. When someone has seen the world and he knows what is out there - it's like, well, why settle for anything less? It's ambition and drive... knowing what they want out of life and how to get it - and doing something about it. We can sit around and talk about how we want to do this and want to do that but what it comes down to is whether we are going to go out and do it. I don't want to end up 40 years from now at a desk job that I hate wondering what I could have been or what I could have done. It's definitely maturity - this confidence that is so sexy and riveting. It comes with knowing who you are and being self aware.. don't get me wrong, I love my guys and all, but as for giving up the single life for a college guy - not happening right now unless they've reached that level of maturity.

This whole thing about taking risks too... why settle for anything less? I want to start a restaurant. I want it to be the talk of the town, I want it to be different, and I want it to be a place that from the moment you walk in, you feel so high on life just because of the atmosphere that you fall in love with who you are and where you are at that very moment. Idealistic, definitely but we all gotta start somewhere right? As Shalini said, if something is meant to be, it will happen - but you gotta work for it too. If you sit on your ass and do nothing, it won't happen. If you have a desire to make it work, then it will come to you with that hard work - there is no way that someone is going to come over to you while you're sitting at a desk doing something you hate, and say, look, I want you to start a restaurant, and I will fund it completely. Doesn't happen. But most of all, I want to choose my life. If I am sitting at the same job in 40 years, I want to know that I chose to be there and that I love it and that's why I wouldn't never leave - not that I would never leave because of the insecurity that comes with being uncertain about anything in life. There are five million reasons each day to feel insecure about, but why let that happen?

The odd thing with trust is that it's not something you can force. If you trust someone, you trust them instinctively and it's beautiful in that way.. it's like if you love someone - if you have to pause to think about whether you do or not, then you don't. You just know when you trust someone and you know when you love someone. I've been lucky. I've had people in my life who respond to my honesty and trust with complete honesty and trust of their own... there are always gonna be some who talk about being honest and never are, but I've been lucky to have such dependable people in my life - my guys definitely look after me.

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