How to Know If You Are In Love
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What, then, is this elusive thing called love
that everyone so desperately needs? Sometimes, we
sort of like this girl because she is beautiful ? Or
the girl likes him because he is handsome? But this
kind of "Cinderella Syndrome" when the girl is
waiting on her Prince Charming, is not real love.
It is better known as "infatuation" and here is a
vast difference between it and real love. Here, we
help you to differentiate and find out if you are
really in love and not just infatuation.
Infatuation
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a
commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion.
Real love, though, is love of devotion. Only the
emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real
love both the emotions and the will are involved.
Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but
"grows into" real love. Guys, have you ever seen a
girl who w as so beautiful that you thought you'd
faint? This is infatuation!
It is based totally on physical attraction; often
you don't know much in-depth about the person you
so-called love.
Thus, infatuation is mostly biological.
Also remember, never tell a girl you love her, unless
you are willing to marry her.
Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real
love is basically selfless . Infatuation is more
interested in satisfying yourself and the "feeling"
than it is in the other person.
Real love is primarily interested in the other
person. It seeks to give instead of get.. Love
unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other
person.
Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation
where real love is strengthened by time and
separation.
This does not mean that there will be no pain in
On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if
you are truly in love.
LOVE
Now you know what is infatuation, we will go on
to discuss about the details of a true love.
Love is patient
The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently
for the fulfillment of expectations.
When you have difficulty dating this girl and she
does not want to come out, if you truly love her, you
will not complain and blame her, you must look at the
situation from her point of view - maybe she is
having some problems which prevented her from coming
out. You must react to it with patience and
understanding.
Next, have you ever met someone you liked so much
that you wanted to push the relationship and make it
progress faster?
Sure you have!
Love, however, is willing to give a relationship
time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but is
willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a
rate that is satisfactory to both parties.
Love is Kind
Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It
respects the feelings and emotions of others. It
finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy.
You can do the following:
(1) Give one another things such as gifts and
encouragement cards.
(2) Compliment one another. Magnify the other party's
strength.
(3) Listen to one another. Pay close attention to
what each of you has to say and make each other feel
that what each says is important.
(4) Treat one another special in public.
Compliment and encourage one another sincerely in the
presence of others.
Love is Not Jealous
Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature
heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is
possessive.
Jealous is reflected in the childish statement,
"If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget
about me!"
Often, one person wants to totally possess the
other and to restrict her relationships with others.
Love does Not Brag
Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress.
Often a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her
so that she will like him. A truly great person,
however, does not need to exalt himself!
Others will exalt him.
Love is Not Arrogant
Love is not conceited, boastful, cocky, or stuck-up.
Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude.
Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with
an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His
demeanour implies,
"You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat
as me is dating you." Of course, is is not love.
Love always covers
This word cover means to pass over in silence, to
keep confidential.
Love is patient with the faults of others. It doesn't
critcise and broadcast to the world the faults of
others.
Love is there even when it knows the other is not
perfect.
Love always Perseveres
Love always stands its ground and holds out. It
will outlast anything. It will even love in the face of
unreturned love.
Real love will last though all sorts of trials,
tribulations and stresses.
Love is Not Provoked
This means that love has a long fuse. It does not
become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended.
This is the heart of love. Love is other-centred
rather than self-centred. Love says, "I love you, I
want to give to you."
Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"
Love does not act unbecomingly
This means that love does not behave disgracefully,
dishourably or indecently. It does not embarrass
others by its action. It is characterised by tact and
sensitivity.
This also means that love should have good manner. Be
sure to do little things like opening doors for your
girl, or offering her your arm when you walk together.
Love is forgiving
Lastly, this is a MUST for a successful love story.
If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his
girl friend is one hour late, he is not exhibiting
love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been
wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.
Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins.
A friend is a gift you give yourself
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