About ffairlady

My name is Brenda and my on line nick is ffairlady.  I am a 44 year old, BBW, submissive woman from Melbourne, Australia.  I first became aware of the internet in 1993, it was at that time I  found out there was a name for the feelings I have had since I was a teenager. So I joined the online BDSM community as a submissive where I have grown and learnt so much from  Both my online and real life submissive experiences.

On-line I have found many of sources of Information on BDSM  this has been of great help to me  because when I have needed guidance, information  or assistance with my BDSM related questions these sites  were at my finger tips and easily accessible at any time of the day or night. When the personal touch was needed I found that I had a wide range of Dom/me and submissive friends on line and real life  who were only to willing to help me with any issue that was of concern to me.  I found that everyone was very  approachable  friendly and supportive  making me feel a part of a community which cares and is willing to help.

During the time I have been on line I have found that some submissive's are gaining experience online  because they are either new to submission or its not possible for them to explore this side of themselves in their day to day lives because of family or other social concerns.  The net provides a safe environment  for submissive's  to learn and grow its a great stating point so that they can  meet other people who may live close enough for face to face social interactions. 

I was happy with subbing on-line as it gave me the freedom to explore myself and to do so in a safe and relaxed environment, over the years it has become more and more obvious to me that it was  time to take the next step and move into real life, this was a very daunting and bewildering thought but a step I thought was time to make. I hope to at some stage find that special Dom that I feel comfortable with and who is willing to accept me for who and what I am.  Some one to teach me, guide me, mould me to serve him and all his desires this journey is a non ending one where we both will learn and grow together. 

Over the years I have had a several real life sessions, these have been very rewarding for me, I was made to feel comfortable, safe and secure both physically and emotionally during these sessions. I have experienced so many new and exciting things , I  enjoyed the flogger on my back, the wax was incredible, the teasing and deep sensations of submission was exquisite and now I look forward to my journey into submission with much excitement. After meeting a incredible Dom from Melbourne I was honoured to have my first one on one session with Him, with His support and that of my dear Domme friend they both have guided me and taught me where my submission can take me, its a place I long to grow and explore. To these two wonderful and dear friends I say thank you. Now my journey continues with many adventures left to have!!!

If you have any further questions please feel free to email me at:

ffairlady@hotmail.com