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This is the first story to came to me, it is from an arabic lady,she is living in America and she want to take advises from other ladys who raised their children in the foreign countries,about how did they control their children in those very open countries,she is 32years old, her children are 8,5&2years old,she is saying that she is thinking of their future and she want to live with a comfortable consious ,And my answer to her is: first:you have to ask your self what is the reason that makes you leave your country. ,second:you have to give your self a certain time to return back home if possible. ,third:you have to becarfull to your child's friends. ,four:you have to contact the arabic community,your child had to have an arabic friends as well as others from different countries. ,fifth:you have the responsibility to always make him feel proud to be arabic,tell him stories about the arabs how they lead the world thousands of years ago,tell him about scientests like Ibn-Elhaitham,Elgabarty,Ibn-Sina,.. ,sixth:you have to shaw him that you can be his friend,not only a mother,and make him share with you the prayers,and the religious examples . ,at last I want you dear readers to share with us the solution of such case,If I miss any thing pls. feel free send to me your opinion and I will puplish it here in this page thank you till the next story,I wish you all the happines.

I had recieved a mail from saudi Ababia from sister Um AbdAllah,and she is sharing us the proplem with islamic point of view,she send me saying: I also visited your web page Dunia wa Deen and read the wonderful comments to the Muslim lady who wants to raise her child in best ways. However, I have some notes here; 1. You advised her to tell them stories about Arabians scientists, as I remember, and tell them to be proud of their Arabic identity. I think that it is better to emphasize the Islamic identity. Most of scientists that we are all proud of are not Arabians neither the Arabic identity made their leaderships in science and politics. So our pride should be first corresponded of being Muslims and that is what we must teach our children in order to make them seek their power from their belief in God through Islam. Children should also be introduced to non-Arab Muslim friends to make them proud of the fact that there are so many people from countries around the world share with them their belief in Islam. As a mother living in U.S.A, I think that being in USA is a good opportunity for children to have this experience...but with care from a mother as the case in any children gathering. thank you sister Um-Abdalla. I wish all of you to share us like sister Um-abdallah to make the issue complete from all it's corners.

MY OPINON ABOUT:

Alsalamo Alaikom The life nowadays makes us very sensetive and nervous more than before , daily proplems are a daily load on our shoulders beside our daily work, but i dont want that to reflect on the way we treat our family (parents,husbands or kids),because if you do so you will regret that, now if you get nervous on your kid (for example) for a small fault he do ,and because of all the responsibility on your shoulders you will feel it as he has done a big fault and you will start blaming him or shouting at him as he had done a crime,we all do that but it is a big wrong we will raise a weak personality kids and Allah will ask us about that and if you do this with your husband and becarfull of that.....,Allah will ask you about that you must control your temper in the presence of your husband and try to understand when to complain to him and when is the best time he can listen to you. always wait for the best time to ask your husband for some thing you want him to buy you or the children also you should wait for the suitable time to disscuss your proplems ,dont forget that the daily life proplems are on his shoulders as well and may be more than you imagine,because we don't go with them to work it does not mean that we should not care about what they are facing every day. hadana allah wa ey'yakom wa salamo alaikom .

AND I HAD RECEIVED THIS REPLY FROM :

SISTER AMMATULLAH: Brothers out there whose wives do not work outside the home should take into consideration that just because their wives are not employed, that does not mean that their day's a breeze and that they don't face problems during the day. Being a housewife involves more than the stereotypical task of baking cookies and vacuuming always associated with it. It involves being solely responsible for all the needs of other human beings and is perhaps the toughest job on earth, both physically, mentally, and even emotionally. Being a mother and housewife requires strength, stamina, and lots of patience. This is why the Prophet PBUH said that "Paradise is at the feet of mothers." Being a mother and housewife is one of the noblest jobs any woman can aspire to. It is also a job that a woman will be greatly rewarded for cuz its no piece of cake. I've tried both working full time and being a housewife full time. If asked which I prefer: staying at home cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, solving the kids' problems and helping them with their homework, doing the shopping, driving the kids to girl scout meetings and football practice, taking them to doctor and dentist appointments OR working a nine hour day then relaxing in front of the TV for the remainder of the day or (assuming I didn't have to worry about the housework), I'd prefer the later. As the saying goes: "Men work from dusk to dawn but a woman's job is never done." Husbands should also take their wives' feelings into consideration. Women are sensitive creatures. If a man gets irritated easily after a hard day of work imagine how a woman must feel? Instead of complaining why dinner is a few minutes late when they come home from work then planting themselves in front of the TV husbands should help out a little more around the house. Afterall, their wives have been working all day too. I am not saying all men are like this but a great many are. There are a few ahadeeth that mention that the Prophet PBUH himself used to help out at home. He also took care of his own laundry. Why is it that so many brothers out there will try so hard to imitate the prophet in every way except when it comes to housework?

HOW TO HAVE A PEACFULL LIFE WITH YOUR HUSBAND :

AND I HAD RECEIVED THIS PROPLEM FROM : SISTER W.BISHER: Perhaps to many women dont know how to treat her husband well,and this make the proplems and make a big gab in the relation ship between both of them,and the most important thing is to get back the friendship between the two parteners ,so please share with us your opinion.

AND MY OPINION IS:

Dear sister this is a very important matter ,so jazaky Allah khairan. from my experiance as a wife for almost 7 years that the most important thing that should be between the husband and his wife is the reciprocal respect ,as a matter of fact we should know our limits in the anger ,in meaning of that we should give every proplem the weight of it and not more,so if we do so we will prevent about 75%of the proplem then after that comes the understanding of why that proplem had happened,and with the respective way in disscussion we will do our best to come near each other even we still not agree totally in our opinions,but in a way that makes us understand each opinion and then try (both of us )to deal on a one opinion in witch suitable for both sides,in that way we get success to 1.know why that happened and that will make the proplem never happen again in some way,2. we didn't heart each other by that every one stand for his opinion without considering the opinion of the other partner,3. we finish it with out any hard feelings and also get to a mid point that suitable for both partners.

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