Nov 10th 2004

 

We are often in the presence of greatness, although it is not always apparent. Oftentimes, one's impact is not felt until after that person is gone. However, in the case of my mother it is clear that many of us knew, just by being in her presence, just how great she really was.

 

There is just one aspect of my mother that continues to bewilder me. My mother was always humble and considered herself a small town girl from Lindsay.  My mom was special to me as she was my mom.  But what is profoundly clear here today was the degree to which she has deeply touched the lives of so many people. I am not convinced that she knew how special she really was.

 

I often sat and listen to my mother tell stories about her childhood, her family, her friends.  And I know how much all of you meant to her.

 

My mother was a happy, strong and delightful woman. She loved life, even with all its struggles.  To me, she was a pillar of strength and my closest and dearest friend.  My mom and I understood each other and were profoundly and meaningfully connected. If you know me then you knew my mother. 

 

Her strength and joy of life is what I am going to feed on now. In my heart my mother remains alive and well. She is dancing with the angels now.  I can see her smile. I can hear her speak to me. She is asking me to do her one final little task. So I stand before you here to complete her wishes of me. 

 

My mom wanted you all to know a few things as she didn’t get to tell you before she passed.

 

Mom wants me to thank all of you. My mom wants me to thank all who cared for, and about, her. To thank all that found friendship with her and loved her. My mom wants me to thank all of the people in her life who stood by her through her struggles, who enriched her life so greatly, and brought her such happiness. She is eternally grateful.

 

I know that we all found pleasure in her genuine warmth, curiosity, and generosity of spirit. She took such care and found pleasure in making the world a better place one kind task at a time. I will miss her, and remember her, and strive to be like her.

 

Her final request is that you now let her strength be your strength. Continue to find the warmth in her smile and let it warm your heats in ways that only my mom knew how.  When you miss her, or are in need, let her caring ways bring you comfort and peace.  Let the twinkle in her eyes light the way to laughter in your own lives. Let’s make her happy even though our hearts are heavy, and strive to celebrate the many gifts and richness she brought to our lives. 

 

Know that she loved you all, each and every one.