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Mr./Ms. "Right" Online Profiles
The following data is the most up-to-date information,
as of November 10, 2006,
gathered from the "Right" Online Form.
Age
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| 18 - 24 |
1 |
8 |
| 25 - 35 |
2 |
9 |
| 36 - 49 |
5 |
11 |
| 50 - 65 |
2 |
4 |
| 66 - 79 |
0 |
0 |
| 80+ |
0 |
0 |
What was your Marital Status when you met someone online?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Single, never been married, unattached |
3 |
13 |
| Single, never been married, attached |
0 |
0 |
| Married |
3 |
1 |
| Separated, unattached |
1 |
2 |
| Separated, attached |
0 |
1 |
| Divorced, unattached |
3 |
12 |
| Divorced, attached |
0 |
1 |
| Widowed, unattached |
0 |
2 |
| Widowed, attached |
0 |
0 |
How many children do you have?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| None |
5 |
15 |
| 1 child under 21 |
2 |
4 |
| 2 children under 21 |
1 |
1 |
| 3 children under 21 |
2 |
3 |
| 4 or more children under 21 |
0 |
2 |
| Some children under 21, some over 21 |
1 |
0 |
| Grown children |
0 |
6 |
Occupation
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Accounting/Management |
1 |
1 |
| Administrative |
0 |
1 |
| Administrative Assistant |
0 |
2 |
| Behavior Specialist, dealing with the mentally handicapped |
0 |
1 |
| Bus Driver |
1 |
0 |
| Business Owner |
0 |
1 |
| Caterer/Waitress |
0 |
1 |
| Clinical Social Worker |
0 |
1 |
| Computers/Electronics |
1 |
0 |
| Customer Service/Clerical |
0 |
3 |
| Daycare Provider |
0 |
1 |
| Education |
0 |
1 |
| Engineer |
1 |
0 |
| Graduate Student |
0 |
1 |
| Hairstylist |
0 |
1 |
| Homemaker |
0 |
1 |
| Interior Designer |
0 |
1 |
| Law Enforcement |
0 |
1 |
| Librarian |
0 |
1 |
| Manager |
0 |
1 |
| Office Manager |
0 |
1 |
| Operations Director |
0 |
1 |
| Truck Driver |
1 |
0 |
| Professional |
0 |
2 |
| Researcher |
0 |
1 |
| Retired |
0 |
1 |
| Stagehand |
1 |
0 |
| Steelworker |
1 |
0 |
| Technical |
1 |
0 |
| Telecommunications Engineer |
1 |
1 |
| Telecom Operations Manager |
0 |
1 |
| University Student |
1 |
3 |
| Writer/Business Development Consultant |
0 |
1 |
| Writer(for government agency) |
0 |
1 |
Interests/hobbies
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Sailing/Enjoying the beach |
1 |
2 |
| Reading/Books |
1 |
19 |
| Writing |
0 |
3 |
|
| Traveling |
1 |
10 |
|
| Needlework |
0 |
1 |
| Creating ANYTHING |
0 |
1 |
| Web page design |
0 |
1 |
| Crafts |
0 |
3 |
| Dancing |
1 |
5 |
| Tennis/Golf/Swimming |
2 |
3 |
| People/Friends |
0 |
4 |
| Sports/either as a player or spectator |
1 |
4 |
| Cooking/Baking/Food |
1 |
3 |
| Music |
3 |
14 |
| Surfing the Web/Computers |
2 |
11 |
| Volleyball |
0 |
1 |
| Softball |
0 |
1 |
| Rollerblading |
0 |
1 |
| Bowling |
0 |
1 |
| Hockey |
0 |
1 |
| Raising my son |
1 |
0 |
| My (god)child(dren) and their activities |
0 |
3 |
| Amateur radio |
1 |
0 |
| MENSA |
1 |
0 |
| Politics |
1 |
0 |
| Civil War |
1 |
0 |
| Movies/Films |
1 |
5 |
| TV |
0 |
1 |
| Acting |
0 |
1 |
| Laughiing |
0 |
1 |
| Singing |
0 |
2 |
| Kickboxing |
0 |
1 |
| Working |
0 |
1 |
| My profession and further development |
0 |
1 |
| Painting |
0 |
1 |
| The Arts -- Theater/Concerts/Museums |
0 |
3 |
| Outdoors/Camping/Hiking/Hunting/Fishing/Rafting |
4 |
7 |
| Antiques |
1 |
0 |
| Motorcycles |
1 |
0 |
| Motor racing |
0 |
1 |
| Taking care of myself and my friends |
0 |
1 |
| Gardening |
1 |
1 |
| Adventurous Activities |
0 |
1 |
| Amusement Parks |
0 |
1 |
| Beer |
1 |
0 |
| Many others |
2 |
1 |
| I like everything |
1 |
0 |
| Nothing in particular |
0 |
1 |
Where do you live?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Urban |
5 |
16 |
| Rural |
5 |
11 |
| On the boundary line |
0 |
4 |
State location
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| AZ |
0 |
1 |
| CA |
2 |
3 |
| CO |
0 |
1 |
| FL |
0 |
5 |
| IL |
0 |
1 |
| KY |
0 |
1 |
MA |
0 |
1 |
| MI |
2 |
0 |
| MO |
0 |
1 |
| NC |
0 |
1 |
| NJ |
1 |
1 |
| NY |
1 |
1 |
| NV |
0 |
1 |
| OH |
2 |
2 |
| PA |
1 |
0 |
| SC |
1 |
1 |
| TN |
0 |
2 |
| TX |
0 |
1 |
| WA |
0 |
3 |
| WI |
0 |
1 |
| I don't live in the U.S.A. |
0 |
4 |
Country
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| U.S.A |
10 |
28 |
| Ireland |
0 |
1 |
| United Kingdom |
0 |
1 |
| Canada |
0 |
2 |
Did you ever place a Classified, go to a Matchmaking Service, etc., in "actual" reality?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Yes |
2 |
7 |
| No |
8 |
25 |
What motivated you to find someone online?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Loneliness |
3 |
1 |
| Curiosity |
1 |
0 |
| Bored, wanted to find someone to be with that shared my interests. |
1 |
1 |
| A dare |
0 |
1 |
| Didn't intend to meet someone online, it just happened. |
1 |
6 |
| "Actual" dating services cost too much. |
1 |
0 |
| I was reading the Personals for fun, never thought I would meet someone. |
0 |
1 |
| I saw his picture and ad in a personals on line and thought
he was really nice looking! |
0 |
1 |
| My college roommate & sorority Little Sis who has met some very
nice guys this way.
|
0 |
1 |
I talked to a friend that I met online & he inspired me
since he met his girlfriend online. |
0 |
1 |
| I wasn't motivated to find "someone" online. It happened while involved in an online forum discussing the television show, "My So-Called Life". |
0 |
1 |
| Didn't find him intentionally. Met while exchanging messages in a newsgroup. |
0 |
1 |
| The first ad I placed was seeking a pen pal. It took 2 years before getting a response and by then I had forgotten about it. |
0 |
1 |
| Able to pursue a situation at 3 in the morning. |
0 |
1 |
| To meet an interesting person and expand my new social circle. |
0 |
2 |
| I wasn't looking to find someone online, just wanted to chat and meet people. |
1 |
2 |
| Wasn't actually looking for anyone online...stumbled into a chatroom a year ago and met some very interesting people online...and things went from there. |
0 |
2 |
| I was always kinda "looking" for someone interesting online.
But when I found my "Mr. Right" I wasn't thinking about it. I was just
in a chat room and we started talking. We talked for over a year as
friends before we realized we cared about each other more. |
0 |
2 |
| I got tired of the bar scenes, and knew surely there must be someone out there that had the same honest feelings as I do, and looking for someone to help make their life more meaningful. |
0 |
1 |
| Tired of the bar scene, people in my small town, and being able to view at least some of the women's info without committing in any way. A radically different approach. A lot of reasons. |
1 |
0 |
| I was motivated to find somone online because I was not
pleased with the people around my environmet. I have also been wondering why people go in chat rooms. Is it just for sex or to find love? |
1 |
0 |
| Sick of the locals, bars, etc., wanted to expand my search out into the world more. |
0 |
1 |
| I was widowed for 2 years and got tired of doing things by
myself all the time. It is hard to enjoy eating out, going to movies, etc. by yourself. Also, missed having someone special in my life! |
0 |
1 |
| My schedule is very full, with not much time for a social
life. I realized that, after being divorced for 11 years, I now had room
in my life for someone and decided to take a chance. My life was full
and satisfying, so there was no real risk. |
0 |
1 |
| Safer. Physically distanced and so less threatening. Plus
you can control the pace and extent to which the relationship develops. You get to know someone through their words rather than looks. Of course all this depends on trust but you can check the person out before meeting. |
0 |
1 |
Where did you go to find someone online?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Chat Rooms |
4 |
9 |
| Classifieds |
0 |
5 |
| Online Matchmaking Service |
5 |
7 |
| Other |
1 |
9 |
Select the word combination that best describes you in your online relationship
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Reserved/Cautious |
3 |
10 |
| Romantic/Starry-eyed |
1 |
4 |
| Adventurous/Flirtatious |
5 |
4 |
| Trusting/Open |
1 |
14 |
What are/were your expectations in finding someone online?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| "Hope Floats" |
1 |
1 |
| Friendship, long-term relationship, something |
1 |
1 |
| None |
4 |
12 |
| None, I haven't found the "right" one yet. |
1 |
0 |
| Scared to death. |
0 |
1 |
| To meet an interesting person and expand my new social circle. |
0 |
1 |
| Friends, but if we were compatible, giving it a shot on a relationship. |
0 |
3 |
| No expectations, just didn't want mind games |
0 |
1 |
| Just to find someone to talk to |
0 |
1 |
| Hoping to find someone like me, cautious yet willing. |
0 |
1 |
| I didn't really expect to, I just figured if my soulmate
was online that we would find each other but I couldn't just look for them. |
0 |
1 |
| Living together -- happily ever after in loving, physical and emotional bliss. |
1 |
1 |
| To find someone who was as curious as I was. |
1 |
0 |
| I really didn't have any expectations. It was new to me.
I didn't know what to expect. I never expected to fall in love with
someone I had met online. I wasn't looking. |
0 |
1 |
| My expectations of a person were: honesty, out-going,
caring, sensitive, and intelligence. |
1 |
0 |
| Knew I had to be cautious, but got swept away in the excitement anyway. Was living in a fantasy world. I had hoped to find someone who was really interested in ME before getting all tripped up in the physicality of the relationship. |
0 |
1 |
| I thought it would be fun and exciting to talk to someone
on here first and getting to know him on line and the actually meeting
him! |
0 |
1 |
| I really doubted that I would be able to find someone, but figured "nothing ventured, nothing gained." If you don't seek out happiness, it certainly won't fall in your lap! |
0 |
1 |
Did you ever play the "cyberspace field" with several individuals, at the same time?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Yes |
5 |
12 |
| No |
5 |
20 |
|
|
|
Were you always honest with someone online?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Yes |
10 |
29 |
| No |
0 |
3 |
|
|
Do you feel there is more romance in a "virtual" relationship, when compared to an "actual" one?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Yes |
4 |
16 |
| No |
4 |
11 |
| Yet to experince the romance of meeting Mr./ Ms. "Right" |
2 |
5 |
If your above answer was "Yes", what makes the relationship more romantic?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right |
| A new start. Joy of discovering a soulmate. |
1 |
0 |
| Far more imagination. |
1 |
0 |
| Able to be more open online, will continue to look for Ms. "Right" online! |
1 |
0 |
| We had to express ourselves in words, rather than physically. |
0 |
1 |
| The getting to know someone over the computer or over the
phone before meeting. And expecially the anticipation of waiting for your soulmate to get off the plane & be in your arms after waiting for so long to feel complete. |
0 |
1 |
| Because you aren't together physically, your words and *actions* have to mean a lot more. |
0 |
1 |
| Being on the same wavelength, yet it is a relationship that is hard to maintain. |
0 |
1 |
| The effort it took to communicate. The fact that you couldn't see each other at all, made it more important to express feelings in a variety of ways. |
0 |
2 |
| There is a mystique about someone you are able to talk with
but not able to actually see. It lends to a great deal more openness. |
0 |
1 |
| Since we were both a bit shy in real life, it was much easier to talk and get to know each other. Always be cautious at first and take some time to get to know each other :) |
0 |
1 |
| Poetry. Openness. The amount of talking/writing that went on. Mutual interests. Mystery. |
0 |
1 |
| There apprears to be more of an effort being made by both people than in conventional relationships. Also, the anticipation of receiving new messages is v. romantic.. :) |
0 |
1 |
| Guess because he was looking for the same thing I was. Meeting people online is easy, but meeting in person is not. I had one bad experience, now another gentleman wants to meet me and I'm afraid. |
0 |
1 |
| Imagination -- to this day I do not understand the difference between our online and real-life relationship. |
0 |
1 |
| That was a hard question to answer "yes" or "no" to. The
romance and excitement of getting to know somone from the inside
first is very romantic and "genuine" without involving all the physical
attraction first. I have been with my Mr Right for a year now and married to him for
seven months. Life is GOOD! We still look at each other sometimes and
wonder how we came to be together as it all still feels like a dream
sometimes. But we are very happy and enjoying life to its fullest now. THATS for sure!
Good Luck finding your Mr. or Mrs. RIGHT! they are out there!
react: Cautious very Cautious! |
0 |
1 |
| Because you had to use words to express yourself more clearly to make that person understand your feeling...Your inter-thoughts came out to get your point across to the other person...and they got to read and listen without interruptions from them and also applied to the responses too from them... |
0 |
1 |
| It was like a young couple falling in love for the first time, so pure and open. Marriage tends to remove so much of the romance from a relationship. [Larramie's Note: For further explanation go to On The Rocks Message Board and read "Reflections".] |
1 |
0 |
How did your family and friends react to your pursuit of an online relationship?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Thought I was "crazy"/"nuts". |
2 |
3 |
| Use caution, caution, be careful! |
0 |
3 |
| Surprised, but when they heard all about how it happened they were very happy for me. |
0 |
1 |
| My friends were surprised at first but think it is great now...my family does not yet know. |
0 |
2 |
| They thought I'd lost my mind. |
0 |
1 |
| Hehe. They still think I'm crazy after ten months. |
0 |
1 |
| They HATE it! They are afraid someone is going to kill me LOL |
0 |
1 |
| At first they cautioned me to be careful, but as I have
continued to meet new and fascinating people they are now always asking "so have you met anyone interesting yet?". |
0 |
1 |
| Family still doesn't really know. They think we met before and
just kept in touch via internet. They really wouldn't understand.
Most of my friends are pretty understanding and supportive. A few think
it's weird. |
0 |
1 |
| My family is unaware of the situation. My closest friend
understands (although, she is not a computer user herself) and is happy for
me,yet, I don't think she truly knows how intense it is. |
0 |
1 |
| Everyone just wants me to be happy, but careful. They all knew
that I was so they didn't worry to much, but once they all met him, they
gave him their 2 cents. |
0 |
1 |
| There seemed to be 2 very distinct groups: One group wished me
well, the other group thought I was crazy. There did not seem to be any
middle ground. |
0 |
1 |
| No reaction. |
2 |
0 |
| Indifference. |
1 |
0 |
| Family was understanding. Friends thought I was strange. |
0 |
1 |
| Thought I was completely crazy and talking to an axe-murderer who would kill me the first time we met (honest!) :) |
0 |
1 |
| I haven't been 100% truthful to everyone as to how we met; I will
NOT tell my mother; she hates the Internet & all things computer! Our other friends are envious, curious, supportive & anxious to try this too!
|
0 |
1 |
| They are very cautious. |
0 |
1 |
| They all have a negative response. People don't understand. |
0 |
1 |
| They don't know how we met. |
0 |
1 |
| I don't think they know. |
0 |
2 |
| Most were supportive, some thought I was crazy. |
0 |
1 |
| It ended without family ever knowing. |
1 |
0 |
| Family never knew, friends were very excited. |
0 |
1 |
| Most didn't say much. I think they were skeptical and wary. Thought I was nuts. Others thought it was exciting, but nothing they would ever
do--lived through me vicariously. |
0 |
1 |
| They were worried that I was going to get hurt and wanted me to
be very cautious, which I was. Some people thought I was nuts...LOL |
0 |
1 |
| I'm the one always working on the computer, so combined with my motivations, it was almost suggested to me. |
1 |
0 |
| Everyone has told me that the feelings I feel are false beacuse
I do not really know who I am talking to. They also say that the Internet is wrong for someone to meet a love. However, I have also talked one on one with my love on the phone several times. |
1 |
0 |
| It made them laugh. |
1 |
0 |
| They were worried. |
0 |
1 |
How long was your relationship limited to "virtual" reality?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Less than 1 week |
0 |
1 |
| 1 - 2 weeks |
1 |
5 |
| About 1 month |
0 |
8 |
| 2 months |
1 |
5 |
| 3 - 6 months |
3 |
4 |
| Over 6 months |
1 |
2 |
| 1 year |
0 |
0 |
| Over 1 year |
0 |
1 |
| Still have yet to meet |
3 |
4 |
| Still have yet to find/meet |
1 |
1 |
Once you met in "actual" reality, did your Mr./Ms. "Right" match their online persona?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Yes |
3 |
22 |
| No |
3 |
5 |
| N/A |
4 |
5 |
What was the travel/physical distance between you?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Same General Metropolitan Area |
1 |
2 |
| Same state, different cities |
2 |
9 |
| Different states |
0 |
6 |
| Different states and different areas of the country |
3 |
9 |
| Different countries, same continents |
0 |
2 |
| Different continents |
1 |
2 |
| Not yet applicable |
3 |
1 |
Who was/would be the one going to relocate, if necessary?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| I was going to relocate |
4 |
12 |
| Mr./Ms. "Right" was going to relocate |
4 |
13 |
| Relocation not actually necessary |
1 |
5 |
Have you married, become engaged to, or living with Mr./Ms. "Right" online?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Yes |
2 |
12 |
| No |
8 |
20 |
|
|
|
If you have you married, become engaged to, or are living with Mr./Ms. "Right" online, do you feel comfortable telling acquaintances/strangers how you met?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Yes |
4 |
16 |
| No |
4 |
7 |
| Not yet applicable |
2 |
9 |
|
|
How long was it, between the time you met, that you became engaged, began living together and/or married?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Less than 1 week |
0 |
1 |
| 1 - 2 weeks |
1 |
2 |
| About 1 month |
0 |
0 |
| 2 months |
0 |
3 |
| 3 - 6 months |
1 |
4 |
| Over 6 months |
0 |
2 |
| 1 year |
0 |
1 |
| Over 1 year |
1 |
1 |
| Still have yet to become engaged or marry |
4 |
13 |
| Still looking |
3 |
5 |
What do you consider to be the main advantage in meeting someone online?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Easy to start, easy to end. |
1 |
0 |
| They get to know your personality 1st. |
1 |
0 |
| Don't know. |
1 |
1 |
| Ability to be honest, we had a chance to say all the things
people struggle to say face to face in a new relationship. |
0 |
1 |
| Expanded field |
0 |
1 |
| Quick and can be over quickly |
0 |
1 |
| None |
2 |
0 |
| Anonymity...ability to be much more open. |
1 |
0 |
| Ease and safety, I think it's much like the Personals in the print media. |
1 |
0 |
| Ability to express ourselves in words rather than in person. It was more challenging than talking in person. I think that made our relationship grow more in a shorter amount of time. |
0 |
2 |
| Getting to know someone from the inside out...if both parties are being honest. Creating a friendship first when distance is involved. |
0 |
3 |
| I think you can really build a foundation before meeting. You spend all your time talking without any physical limitations. The tendency, I believe, is to be more honest with those barriers gone. |
0 |
1 |
| You get the opportunity to know each other without physicality getting in the way. |
0 |
1 |
The intense communication. Without the physical aspect, all
you CAN do is talk. You learn so much by talking to someone. Some
things you may have never learned otherwise, had the actual, physical
aspect been there. |
0 |
1 |
| You get to know the person first, without appearances to get in the way. |
0 |
5 |
| Getting "inside their head" first, before you see their physical self.. Developing a deep relationship that is not based on physical attraction, but mental attraction - IMHO, the basis for a stronger "real" relationship if that happens. |
0 |
1 |
| Dialog seems to flow easily, or at least it did for us. I only was on-line for about one day until he found me! We sent several e-mails over 4-5 days, then he gave me his # & we talked on the phone once & were anxious to meet shortly thereafter.
|
0 |
1 |
| The ease in talking to each other and getting to know all about each others likes and dislikes etc. It is so much easier when you do meet for the first time because you feel you already know each other. |
0 |
6 |
| Easier to end the relationship without problems if things
do not turn out as expected. |
1 |
0 |
| I'm not sure it is an advantage, except that the Internet is a far reaching, powerful and enabling resource. It beats the confines of the town I live in. |
1 |
0 |
| The main advantage of meeting someone online is the appeal
of mystery. This may sound weird but, that is the driving force for cyber-relaionships. The participants can really get to know each other before meeting in reality. In reality, people are afraid of getting rejected face to face. |
1 |
0 |
| Getting to know a person for who they are
on the inside first, including what each others morals,values, goals
in life are right up front, and definitely what one another expects
from a relationship. |
0 |
2 |
| You MUST communicate. You can get to know each other's personality,
style of communication, level of intellect. You can cover a whole wide range of important topics that might seem strange to discuss if you were talking in person. Sometimes the anonymity breeds openness. |
0 |
1 |
| I think that you can be more relaxed about saying things to
each other, than if you were looking at that person face to face. You discuss things that you probably wouldn't if you were really together, and you can get to know a person really well over the net. |
0 |
1 |
| A chance to meet people you never would have met before. |
0 |
1 |
If you don't like them then at least you don't have to worry
about them calling you or showing up at your house drunk and begging! |
0 |
1 |
What do you consider to be the main disadvantage in meeting someone online?
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Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Same as with any relationship, fear of rejection |
1 |
0 |
| Trusting the other person to be telling the truth |
0 |
1 |
| That people may misrepresent themsleves; but I don't think that
most do. I was exceptionally lucky.
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0 |
1 |
| REALLY never know! |
1 |
1 |
| You set yourself up for a huge disappointment. |
1 |
0 |
| Since this was my first and only -- positive -- experience, I am not aware of disadvantages. |
0 |
1 |
| It's too easy to misrepresent oneself and/or deliberately deceive. |
0 |
4 |
| Lack of honesty, no pictures. |
1 |
0 |
| None in general; although, on a personal level, I get spammed from disgusting porno sites because my real e-mail address is out on the ad. |
1 |
0 |
| Not really knowing if the other person is being honest with you. |
1 |
6 |
| You find that you don't have that much in common. |
0 |
1 |
| None. |
1 |
0 |
| Not knowing how the other person will act in public. |
0 |
1 |
| Being so far apart. |
1 |
4 |
| Not being able to touch the one you've fallen in love with |
1 |
1 |
| The time it takes to put things in order, when you know you have found the love of your life, but you are so far apart and one of you is relocating. |
0 |
1 |
| Worrying about meeting, not from a safety point of view, but whether we'd get on as well in real life as we did through e-mail. Also, chances are that the person you meet will live far away, and long distance relationships can be difficult. |
0 |
1 |
| The main thing is that they may not be the person they claim to be. They can be totally dishonest about who they are, what they look like, etc. |
0 |
1 |
| Not knowing what they look like, and not knowing whether
or not they will change their mind about you once they know what you
look like. |
0 |
1 |
| There is a large element of risk. Horror stories happen
all the time. You have to be extremely careful. |
0 |
1 |
| You have to be very cautious, I met alot of strange
people as well as genuine. Its very easy to hide behind a computer
screen. Use your God given instinct you were given. If it doesn't
feel right it probably isn't! Don't be gulible! |
0 |
1 |
| You never REALLY know who you are dealing with. They could be feeding
you lies about who they are and what they are about. They could be married or "courting" several others online. You cannot experience the significance of being in the same room together and experiencing true intimacy and affection. |
0 |
1 |
| The distance...makes it hard on both of you, but if it is meant to be, that part of it, can always be worked out between the two of you... |
0 |
3 |
| I've always said, and still say, that it is too impersonal to me, and that is why I resisted the idea for a year and a half. To me, part of the attraction to the opposite sex is visual. I am not speaking of their physical dimensions, but the NATURAL attraction to the OPPOSITE sex. Online falls short miserably in that area. |
1 |
0 |
Do you recommend meeting someone online?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| Yes |
8 |
27 |
| No |
2 |
2 |
| Sure. Why not? |
0 |
1 |
| Maybe |
0 |
2 |
Further comments and/or clarifications to the above questions?
|
Mr. "Right" |
Ms. "Right" |
| It is assumed that these relationships include leaving a spouse. That's not always the case. Our relationship has gone on for 6 years and we are still married to our respective spouses. |
1 |
0 |
| Despite the negative views of cyber-love, I believe love
can exist. The key once again is honesty. I have found my true love online. We are both in love and have even communicated via telephone many times. |
1 |
0 |
| Although I'm not technically at the level of commitment which meets with the parameters of the question. I've always felt comfortable telling people how I met my dates, if they inquired. There's no shame in writing to someone, then meeting them in person, and deciding you've got someone worthy knowing even better. I'm always intrigued by this question--it's loaded with some much emotional content. Just the fact that it's asked carries a negative implication.
|
0 |
1 |
| I thank God for this refreshing & wonderful compassionate &
passionate man. I think I honestly found the last real & unphony man on earth. Stay tuned!
|
0 |
1 |
| Take care. |
0 |
1 |
| About 8 months ago, I "ran into" someone online. At
first, we chatted infrequently. From the beginning, I knew this person
was different from other people. He was honest and sincere and we became
good friends. Our chatting increased and we discovered we really liked
what we had found. Now it has progressed to loving each other with all
of our hearts. We took the time to get to know each other and didn't
jump into anything. The relationship grew over time. |
0 |
1 |
| Websites like this are a great idea for people in online
relationships. It's comforting to know that there are others out there
in similar situations. It's good to hear about other people who have
made it through an online relationship and are now happy together.
|
0 |
1 |
| I think one has to be careful, but if you keep an open mind and remember to be safe, you can have a lot of fun and meet some really neat people whom you may never have had an opportunity to meet otherwise. |
0 |
2 |
| Meeting someone, and developing a relationship online, is not for
everyone. There are those who should not experiment with online
relationships, for a variety of reasons. |
0 |
1 |
| I don't recommend...because it really takes a lot to make an online relationship work. I wouldn't really recommend it to my friends. |
0 |
1 |
| It depends on any good or bad situation that I may have in the future. |
0 |
1 |
| I believe you can have a relationship with someone from online, if you are open with each other and honest and take the time to know the person well before jumping into meeting with them...Yes, it is hard and you must have patience with each other, but communication is so important in any relationship, and I think this way of communicating is a good start...It is up to each individual to make it work for them... |
0 |
1 |
| I think that you must use extreme caution when actually meeting people face to face. You have to chose a safe place for meeting and never allow yourself to be placed where you could be in danger at any time. |
0 |
1 |
| Human beings are social animals and everyone wants to feel connected to another person, to open up completely to another person, to feel loved
unconditionally by another person. Internet romantic communication can create the illusion that you have all those things, especially when you really want those things very badly. When reality sets in, it can be heartbreaking and damaging. |
0 |
1 |
| Well, I think that sometimes online dating works...; but, I think, that's far more rare than it is regular. And, I also feel that when you see and deal with people in the real world...; then, the dream has a far better chance of ever becoming reality; and, also, so much faster. But, say you love somebody who is living elsewhere in the world...; then, the dream just seems to remain nothing else but a dream. Meaning, it's a lot easier to get taken for a fool...; which is exactly what she did to me! Then, later on, explained that it was all lies she'd been telling me...; that she was already married, and, had 3 children. Yes, very nice for her, maybe...; but, what a big loss for me...; after I'd been chasing after her non-stop for a full total of over 6+ months long! Oh, and, she approached me, first...; I didn't just go chasing after her, immediately; she started chasing, and, just wouldn't stop...; finally, I gave in to her constant temptations. So, basically, she led me on...then, finally, abandoned me...leaving me on total dead end street! Well, you might say, I wish you far better luck next time. Nope! Once, bitten/twice, shy! And, that's enough of chasing online girls for all the rest of my entire life. Total waste of my highly valuable time! As they say, thanks; but, no thanks! |
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